For Alice and her partner, each lockdown amounted to enforced monogamy; no longer allowed to see or date other people. Overnight, her primary partner suddenly became her only partner.
Knowing what our needs are can help us be more mindful about whether a prospective partner could offer us the support we need, or whether we are wishful in thinking they could.
The person that was right for us in our 20s may not be right for us ten years later. Life experiences affect us and our partners, so perhaps the best that we can hope for is a partner that adapts with us.