People lose weight for a lot of different reasons — physical or mental illness, emotional trauma, lifestyle changes. I found it interesting that while friends following my online presence knew that my weight loss was intentional (up to a certain point), many people who didn’t see my posts were automatically assuming it was a positive thing. There was one friend, however, who approached the subject in a very considerate manner. “I saw that you’ve been talking about your weight loss and fitness goals online, so I wanted to tell you how proud I am of what you’ve accomplished,” he said. I thanked him and told him how much it meant that he phrased it that way; it felt like a genuine affirmation, as opposed to a loaded remark. Because every time someone told me I looked good, I wondered if that meant I had looked bad before I lost weight. “You shrunk, congrats!” one friend exclaimed, to which I replied, “What am I, a raisin?” “Where did you…go?” another friend remarked as she grabbed at my waist. My weight loss was met with admiration and excitement, but also confusion, envy, and retroactive body-shaming.