Rebecca Adams's Recent Articles

A few months ago, I was on a date with a guy when he asked me the second-date question I hate the most: “When was your last serious relationship?” I to

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Relationships

Why I'm Happy I Haven't Met "The One" Yet

I turned 27 this past March, and it was a birthday of realisations. I realised that when someone suggests moving your birthday party to a warehouse concert

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Relationships

I'm Sick Of Hearing That Love Will Come When I Stop Looking For It

I was lucky to grow up with two parents who pushed me and my brothers equally to achieve our goals in life. My father always told me that, in order to be s

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Dating Advice

Why I'm Done Being Mysterious On Dates

I was recently rewatching old episodes of Sex and the City, cry-laughing at how poorly the show holds up in today’s modern dating culture (it’s bad, gu

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Relationships

How I Got Back Into The Dating Game After A Long Hiatus

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Relationship Advice

In Defence Of Arguing Over Text Message

“I have some things I want to discuss. Can we meet in person and chat?” For me, those are some of the scariest words that could ever flash across my iP

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It's Not You

We Need To Change The Conversation Around Interracial Dating

As much as I love sharing my dating stories, there are a lot of experiences that I haven't had. That's why, as part of It’s Not You, I'll

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It's Not You

First Dates Don’t Mean All That Much To Me — Here’s Why

Being one of the token single women in your friend group means that you become numb to certain conversations and situations. Last New Year’s Eve, it didn

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Sex

I'm A Nightmare Ex-Girlfriend — & I'm Cool With That

There are certain things about myself that I’ve had to come to grips with when it comes to sex, dating, and relationships. I’m not a “cool girl;” w

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Sex

The 4 Worst Dates I've Ever Been On

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Sex

What It's Like To Date As A Muslim Woman

As much as I love sharing my dating stories, there are a lot of experiences that I haven't had. That's why, as part of It’s Not You, I'll

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It's Not You

I Don't Believe That You'll "Just Know" When Someone Is The One

We’re in the midst of wedding season, which means everyone on your Instagram feed is getting hitched in overt fashion — ceremony hashtag included. Sinc

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Sex

How I Keep From Being Cynical When Dating Totally Sucks

I used to never understand people who would wax poetic about the beginnings of relationships. They’d go on about how much they loved the newness of every

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Sex

How To Handle The Scary, Sad, No-Good Single Days

When you start writing about your romantic life, people tend to assume certain things about you. Over the weekend, a guy asked if I felt pressure to seek o

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Sex

I'm No Longer Dating People Who Are "Relationship Material"

The first online dating profile I ever set up was on OkCupid when I was 21. I remember taking a lot of time on it — making sure to pick the exact words t

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Sex

What I Learned From Dating Myself

I have a strong aversion to walking into places first. It’s true — if I’m out with family or friends, I’ll always try to be the first to the door,

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Sex

The Postpartum Sex Issue We Need To Talk About

My Ob/Gyn has a great head of hair for a man his age, I remember thinking as I looked down between my legs, my feet in the stirrups at my six-week postpart

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Sex

Think The Female Orgasm Is Elusive? Let These 6 Women Explain

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Sex

What You Can Actually Learn From Being Single

There’s this weird thing that a lot of us do when we find ourselves at the end of a relationship. We’ll be out with friends, sifting through the rubble

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Sex

Why I'll Never Apologise For Being "Intimidating" Again

A few weeks ago, I posted a survey to my Twitter, asking my followers what they wanted to see in this column. (It’s still live, so you can feel free to a

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Sex

How Not "Defining The Relationship" Got Me Exactly What I Wanted

There are certain things in life I meander through: cooking dinner, long walks through Central Park, and paying my rent. But, for the most part, I rush eve

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Sex

How I Realised I'm The Worst Kind Of Person To Date

The other night, I was scrolling through my text messages, trying to find my group chat with my friends, when I came across a message from a guy I’d met

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Sex

Why Google Was Hazardous To My Dating Health

I’ve never been great at deciding things on my own. I blame it on the fact that I’m a Pisces — we fish tend to be more than a little wishy washy. And

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Sex

I Completely Lost Myself Trying To Be “The Cool Girl”

From the time I was in elementary school, I was aware of the fact that there was a certain breed of woman that straight guys preferred: the Cool Girl. I ma

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Sex

It's Time To Call "Ghosting" What It Really Is

Two days ago, I yelled at my computer after reading a series of articles across the web. In them, the writers describe the exact relationship I currently f

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Rebecca Adams

Rebecca Adams grew up between New York, California and Texas, where she studied multimedia journalism at The University of Texas at Austin. She now lives in Brooklyn with an Australian and three houseplants perpetually on the verge of death.