They didn't want to be emotionally traumatised by the whole process of watching me deteriorate, and some of them actually admitted that – they were scared for me because they didn't know what the outcome was going to be.
Some of my friends just didn't know how to handle it. They felt quite afraid, so they avoided seeing me because I reminded them of death, and they thought I wasn't going to make it.
You not calling can actually compound the grief and loss they are feeling. Just pick up the phone, even if you get it wrong, just have a conversation and do your best. Your friend with cancer is still the same person they were before.