In truth, being a commitment-phobe is a distressing and isolating symptom of a range of complex attachment disorders.
I am quick to cut communication with someone if it doesn't fit what I want and I will obsess over tiny details about them until I am convinced they will hurt me.
We're programmed to form loving bonds and relationships with other people. We have that in us innately.
As much as we demonise people who can't commit, being commitment-phobic is not an enjoyable experience for anyone.