The Bachelor Ben Higgins Will Never Apologize For His Breakup With Ex-Fiancée Lauren Bushnell

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Two weeks after calling off his engagement, The Bachelor Ben Higgins is opening up about the beginning of the end of his relationship with fiancée Lauren Bushnell. Specifically, letting his fans know that he wishes the final months of their union were different, but he's not going to apologize for anything that happened. Not the good and not even the bad.
Higgins took to Instagram to write a lengthy note aimed at the haters who have been badmouthing him and his former fiancée, who recently starred in their own reality show, Ben and Lauren: Happily Ever After? "A small minority of people (at least I will continue to believe it is a small minority) want to see people suffer or fail," he wrote. "Personally, my basis for judging myself is simple, if I do something that doesn’t represent Christ then I will listen to the opinions and words from family and friends who know me best and love me."
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What he wanted to make clear was that he isn't perfect, "none of us are," he wrote, "and I have never claimed to be. I do desire to show love in all situations (do I always do that? No, I fail often)."
In fact, he admitted that the "last few months have not gone the way I would have preferred. My relationships have changed drastically and what I envisioned my life was going to be has been redirected." While it's sad, he said no one should feel sorry for him because "life happens both the good and bad" and he's dealing with both those things right now.
One good thing, the Generous Coffee owner says, has been the ability to try new things professionally like his podcast with fellow Bachelor alum Ashley Iaconetti, Ben and Ashley: Almost Famous. If anything that's the advice he has for fans who are also dealing with heartbreak or hard times. "When a good opportunity comes your way that fits your desires take it," he says, "because life is short but a lot more fun when you are doing something you enjoy."

You are going to hurt somebody, you are going to hurt somebody deeply. But, I will not be one of those people. I cannot focus on the negative comments or indecently hateful words being said about me or my relationship even though they do sting. I do know great people that I care about deeply that comments and criticisms have affected and as a result I wanted to share my words. A small minority of people (at least I will continue to believe it is a small minority) want to see people suffer or fail. Personally, my basis for judging myself is simple, if I do something that doesn’t represent Christ then I will listen to the opinions and words from family and friends who know me best and love me. I do desire (by the direction of family and peers) to become a better person daily. I know some will not agree with my intentions but in all things my pursuit is to represent Christ better. With that, I will once again clearly tell you I AM NOT PERFECT as none of us are and I have never claimed to be. I do desire to show love in all situations (do I always do that? No, I fail often). To be clear, not that this should be a surprise, but this podcast is a professional decision I have made to enhance my life and career. I still have a full time job. I am still running Generous Coffee company. I still have a blog. I am still actively involved in @humanityandhope. And now, because I was given the opportunity, I have added a podcast with a friend and a great company (@iheartradio) to talk about life (and I love to talk). The last few months have not gone the way I would have preferred. My relationships have changed drastically and what I envisioned my life was going to be has been redirected. It is sad, but it is nothing you should feel sorry for me about, life happens both the good and bad. With this, what do you think I should do now? For all of you that have given me advice let me give you some from my heart. Love as hard as you can (even to strangers). Ask yourself what life is about and pursue your conclusion with passion. When a good opportunity comes your way that fits your desires take it, because life is short but a lot more fun when you are doing something you enjoy.

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This isn't the first time Higgins has addressed the breakup. Days after the Bachelor season 20 couple called it quits with a statement to People that said "We feel fortunate for the time we had together, and will remain friends with much love and respect for one another," he explained on his podcast, that Bushnell would "always be one of my best friends.
"It's [a relationship] where I learned a lot about myself," he continued. "I think she learned a lot about herself. Obviously, she knows me better than anybody else that has gone through this experience, and really probably anybody else in the world. It's tough."
It's so tough that Higgins said he would be putting all of his focus on his house, which is an unfortunate metaphor for his love life. "My house and I are feeling very similar," he said on his podcast, "Sad, mourning, a little empty." Though, it may not be as sad as he'd like to say, since there are rumors that he's dating Iaconetti after being spotted at a concert together. Maybe there is a happily ever after in Higgins' future.
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