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Don't compete with the other bridesmaids.
If you're not friends with all of the other bridesmaids, it's easy to see the wedding as a competition. You might be worried about how your gifts for the shower and the wedding stack up against the other bridesmaids' or whether they're doing more to help the bride than you.
Do not fall down that rabbit hole. Being a bridesmaid is about helping your friend get ready for her wedding, not for you to show off how great of a friend you are. The bride already knows that — that's why she asked you to stand beside her on the big day. Even if the other bridesmaids seem eager to make things a contest, don't play into it. If you have to, it's okay to tell them that you're focused on making the day about your friend.
On a similar note, being a bridesmaid means letting the small things go. Even if you don't love the dress or the hairstyle, it's really not about you. And if you do want to vent — never complain to the bride.
Keep the dance party going.
Hopefully, the other wedding guests are there to party, too. But if the dance floor's looking a bit sparse, the bridal party should keep the energy going by breaking it down — even if they're the only ones out there. Regardless of whether you like dancing, it will mean a lot to the bride to see people having a good time.
And while we're on the topic, if you're in the wedding party, it's essential to stay until the end of the event. You may be bored, tired, or more interested in kicking off the after-party, but your friend asked you to stand by her side — and that includes being present for the entire reception.
Make sure everyone stays well-fed.
Having snacks on hand is key at the wedding day and at any other wedding-related events. Whether the food is for you, the bride, or one of the other bridesmaids, everyone will appreciate that you have granola bars or fruit in your bag. The wedding day is long — you don't want to deal with hanger on top of everything else.
And if you're packing some food for the day's events, it doesn't hurt to throw in some other essentials, like tampons and deodorant. Someone will need them.
Don't mention anything too embarrassing in your speech — but don't be afraid to get personal.
Yes, the bride probably doesn't want you to mention the specifics of when things got crazy at the bachelorette party. But there's nothing worse than a generic speech, either. Share a few heartfelt (but G-rated) stories and you'll win over the couple and the rest of the wedding guests.