Update: Tonight we will all be saying goodbye to Pretty Little Liars after a seven year run. The show has gifted us with many strong women characters, a thousand theories (including our epic end-game one), and a great portrayal of friendship between women in their teenage years and early 20s. But, there has always been one big problem with the show — how relationships with underage girls and grown men are portrayed. While all of the main females are now in their 20s, the shadows of statutory rape from their youth are still there.
Going into this last episode we still have a lot of questions. One of the biggest questions left — are Aria (Lucy Hale) and Ezra (Ian Harding) going to end up together? As of last week the two were engaged, but their wedding seemed as far off as ever. AD brought back a police report Aria filled out about Ezra once she found out he had intentionally started dating her (not to mention had been stalking her and her friends) when he knew she was underage to get information about her other underage friend. This allowed the two of them to open up about the foundation of their relationship. Aria was very clear she forgave Ezra long ago, but considering AD was able to use their foundation to get Aria to betray all of her friends and join the AD team, there are still some issues that will hopefully be explored in tonight's two hour finale.
This story was originally published on July 20, 2016.
On last night's Pretty Little Liars, Ezra (Ian Harding) proposed to Aria (Lucy Hale). I know most fans were cheering — this is one of the most-loved couples on the show. (Even executive producer and showrunner Marlene King has called Ezria the "end game.") But I was pissed and feeling cheated. If you read my recaps you know that I love the show, but that I have a huge problem with its persistent use of inappropriate relationships: namely, when a grown man dates an underage girl.
Many TV shows have used these relationships to add some drama and score ratings. It's almost always the same dynamic of a grown man and underage girl, although there have been some notable exceptions that flip the gender-role script — for example Tamara (Leann Hunley) and Pacey (Joshua Jackson) on Dawson's Creek. However, few shows have used these May-December relationships as often and without consequence as Pretty Little Liars.
The most prominent example is the Ezra and Aria romance. Ezra was Aria's high school teacher when they started dating — she was only 16 — that alone was creepy. The backstory only made it worse. He had previously hooked up with and romanced Aria's friend, 15-year-old Ali (Sasha Pieterse), until the night she disappeared. As if that wasn't bad enough, he was also using Aria as material for his book on Ali, hoping for the next Gone Girl-esque best-seller. We are supposed to believe that he truly fell for Aria, but it's hard to get past the fact that a grown man put surveillance cameras on his girlfriend and her friends, all of whom were still in high school.
Somehow, the only people who ever have concerns about the relationship are Aria's parents, and even they give in. The pair — known to fans as "Ezria" — was beloved from the beginning. I figured the writers and fans would change their alliances once Ezra's lair was revealed. He was literally sitting in a creepy apartment watching unauthorized surveillance cameras of four underage girls. Yet the characters forgave him, the writers forgave him, the fans forgave him. I was just repulsed.
When they broke up as Aria graduated, I was thankful. We could move on. Five years later, Aria is no longer underage, so when they got back together it wasn't illegal anymore. But their history is still there. Last week, Liam brought it up. He rightfully called out the relationship for being inappropriate and accused Ezra of taking advantage of a student. These things are all true. Ezra left to figure out how he felt about those "criticisms." I was hopeful. Maybe people were understanding the consequences after all. Nope. He came back and proposed. Actually, he told her to listen while he talked (so essentially, "shut up") before he asked her to commit to him for life.
I just couldn't believe that moment — the first time the Ezria relationship is accurately described —was used as a catalyst for a proposal between the two. But, considering all of the inappropriate relationships the series has served up, I shouldn't have been surprised. Here's a look at Pretty Little Liars' history when it comes to grown men and high school girls. Let's just hope that when Ezria gets married, they don't mention how Aria aced both English and Human Anatomy with Ezra.
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It turns out that the summer before Ali went missing, she ended up being kissed by multiple over-aged men. She wrote love letters to a man who was rumored to have gotten her pregnant, referred to as "Board Shorts." Later, we found out that Board Shorts was detective Wilden. It's hard to tell exactly how old he was, but considering he also forced Mrs. Marin (Laura Leighton) to date him, and he was an officer when Charlotte (Vanessa Ray) was a teenager, he would be in his mid-30s. The fact he's a police officer only makes it worse.
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It's not just Spencer who caught Wren's eyes. He also tried to start a romance with Hanna (Ashley Benson). Yes, he tried to hook up with the friend of one of his exes, the little sister of his ex-fiancée. If that is not complicated, I don't know what it is. He was a doctor, and he used treating her as a chance to flirt. Not only was the age gap an issue, but the whole beginning of their relationship was an abuse of his position.
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Aria's father was always against the Ezra and Aria relationship, but he was a huge hypocrite. One of the original secrets that Ali used against her friends was that Mr. Montgomery (Chad Lowe) was cheating on his wife with one of his students. He moved the family to another country in order to "try and make things right," but picked back up with the then-graduated student once they moved back.
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In the last season, the writers seemed to realize they needed to take a stand against creepy men. I respect that. Mrs. Montgomery (Holly Marie Combs) moved on from her cheating ex-husband with coffee-shop owner Zack (Steve Talley). Right before they were supposed to get married, Zack sexually harassed Hanna (Ashley Benson). But the storyline felt forced and too little too late considering all of the other relationships people should have spoken up about.
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That leaves us with the (perhaps) newly engaged. (Aria's response was left as a cliffhanger for the next episode.) Not only did the couple secretly date for most of Aria's high school years, but they went on public dates and even danced at school dances together in the later seasons. Ezra was eventually fired from his teaching position, but was later brought back on. It seemed like everyone forgot that it's not okay for a high school teacher to date his students.