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15 Movies With An Older Woman-Younger Man Romance

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    In Amy Schumer's "Last Fuckable Day" sketch, Sally Field is a punch line. She's the go-to example of how Hollywood marginalizes women of a certain age. Whereas male movie stars are consistently paired with love interests 10 or 20 years their junior (see: who's been cast opposite Tom Cruise in the new Mummy movie), Field was relegated to playing Mrs. Gump at the age of 47. Tom Hanks is merely 10 years younger than she is. Men get increasingly younger romantic partners; women have to play mothers.

    But in the new movie Hello, My Name Is Doris, Field pursues a man more than three decades her junior. Field plays Doris, who finds herself smitten with John Fremont (Max Greenfield), the new guy in her office. Bereft by the recent loss of her mother, for whom she cared her entire life, Doris passionately attempts to figure out how she could possibly win John. It turns out her zany wardrobe is a hit in Williamsburg, and the two end up becoming friends.

    Doris may be a bit clueless, but the movie doesn't deny Field her sexuality. At one point, hipsters at a concert assume that John is sleeping with her. Sure, Doris is sort of dotty, and she certainly has no idea how to seduce a man, but she's still seen as desirable.

    The history of movies featuring romantic and/or sexual relationships between older women and younger men is a fraught one. Yes, Mrs. Robinson is hot in The Graduate, but she's also portrayed as a boy-crazy lady who ruins lives. Cinematic women who engage in affairs with younger men are often sexy, but also broken in some way or another. Though the woman has the upper hand in terms of age, she is often a conquest for the virile dude.

    Hello, My Name Is Doris, out March 11, doesn't exactly engage with those tropes. We won't spoil whether or not Doris and John end up together, but ahead we look at some other movies featuring the age gap you're not used to seeing.

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    Sunset Boulevard (1950)
    Norma Desmond (Gloria Swanson) is a terrifying vision of an older woman. She's a washed-up silent film star who ensnares a screenwriter (William Holden) and leads him to a fatal demise. Sunset Boulevard is a wonderful movie, but Norma both embodies and represents how Hollywood sees older women. Once past their prime, they are grotesque.

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    The Graduate (1967)
    No name is more synonymous with these relationships than Mrs. Robinson. Anne Bancroft is dead sexy as the iconic character who seduces Dustin Hoffman’s aimless Benjamin Braddock. But, like Norma before her, Mrs. Robinson also turns vicious as she tries to keep Benjamin from her daughter Elaine (Katharine Ross).

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    Harold and Maude (1971)
    The age gap gets even wider in Hal Ashby's classic. The bizarre tale is about the romance between a wild-child 79-year-old (Ruth Gordon) and a young man (Bud Cort) who stages suicides. They both like going to funerals. So much about this relationship could be off-putting, but it's ultimately sweet.

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    Class (1983)
    Jonathan (Andrew McCarthy) is an awkward prep school student. At a bar, he meets a gorgeous older woman, Ellen (Jacqueline Bisset), who surprisingly takes an interest in him. They start an affair, but it’s cut short when she realizes he lied about his age. They’ll meet again: Turns out, the woman is the mother of his BFF, Skip (Rob Lowe). Then the movie takes an icky turn. By its end, Ellen's checked herself into the hospital for psychiatric treatment, while Jonathan and Skip have had it out and made up. You see, bro friendship is more important than a woman’s mental health.

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    Bull Durham (1988)
    Susan Sarandon has two lovers in this baseball movie, in which she plays the older woman as hot sage. One is the more age-appropriate Kevin Costner, the world-weary minor-league catcher; the other is Tim Robbins, the upstart pitcher. (Robbins and Sarandon, who were married for more than 20 years, met on this film.)