There are no textbook births in real life.
There can be too many cooks in the kitchen.
Postpartum rest is important.
"It's valuable for the person who has given birth to have a chance to really rest and do very little other than rest — and get to know their baby," she says. Some people need to (and/or would like to) go right back to work, and that's just what their life looks like. "Most people need at least a week of solid rest after they give birth in order to let their hearts, bodies, and minds process," she says. "It’s helpful not to try to jump back into your old routines too quickly, and it’s wise for new parents to have lots of support during this time. ”
It'll never be exactly like your first time.
The whole family may need support.
For example, your doula could be the one who grabs juice for everyone so your partner can hang and really be there for the birthing person. "There's rarely a time when a doula is superfluous," Nowakoski says. "And if I am, that's wonderful, because it means this couple was ready to do this and has resources they need to feel supported."
Lugosch-Ecker says her favorite memory is of a 3-year-old watching her mom give birth at home. "The mom was making noise and was really in it, and the girl got scared and asked what the noises were," she says. "I remember kneeling down and saying, That's your mama making magic, and I was like, that's the truest thing I've ever said about this."
Birth is extremely physical.
The internet is overwhelming.