12 Major Texting Don'ts (& One Big DO)

Design: Mallory Heyer.
This piece was originally published on May 9, 2016.

The prevalence of emoji and GIFs has made it easy to express almost anything over text. But while it's tempting to say anything and everything via text, there are some things that still deserve the spoken-word treatment.

It's like that saying your mom repeated endlessly and your kindergarten teacher had on a colorful poster above the chalkboard: "Treat others as you would like to be treated." Cheesy, but worth repeating.

Breaking up over text? In 2016, that's still not cool.

Click through for the top offenders you should avoid texting at all costs, as well as one text that's always good to send, no matter the situation.

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Did I do something wrong? I can't imagine what, but if I did I'm really sorry. The statement isn't the problem here — I totally get that you can't make the movie — but why did you have to end it with a period? Yes, it's grammatically correct, but everyone knows that people only use periods in texts when they're really pissed off (even expert linguists agree on that front). If you're not angry, just be grammatically lazy like the rest of the world.
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No. But I do remember that you have a perfectly capable Google app on your phone that will tell you the answer. In the time it took to type this text to ask, you could have looked it up for yourself. Save us both some time and answer the fact-based questions on your own.
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Friends don't let friends text for them. In the age of Bumble and women breaking the glass ceiling, it's time to summon the courage to send whatever tricky text you need to on your own. And if you're having that much trouble, maybe it is one of those conversations that should be had in person — not over text.
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The emoji I'm using? My choice of GIF? Oh, wait. The relationship? Call me old-fashioned, but a relationship, no matter how long or short, deserves some in-person, adult language. No broken heart emoji or angry faces, just spoken words.
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I'm psyched for you, I really am. But isn't telling your roommate that you're moving over 3,000 miles away something that's nice to do in person? Please don't drop this bombshell right after I finished sending you that Snapchat. (Although I am very excited for all the macarons that I will eat when I come visit. You know, after I find a subletter to pay your portion of the rent.)
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Because I'm busy? Because not everyone is glued to their phone 24/7, despite what social media may suggest? I promise I'll text you back. But you nagging me about not texting you back makes me feel bad and...makes me not want to text you back.
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Hey sis, I have no idea why I need to call mom, but your serious lack of details has induced immediate panic and totally freaked me out. Plus, you know that before I call her, I'm going to take the time to text you back to tell me why I need to call her in the first place. So, this not only wastes both of our time — it also almost gave me a heart attack. Great.
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First off, I don't even know what "that" is. Secondly, everyone knows that no argument or confusion was ever resolved over text. Call me.
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Am I honored? Yes. But if you're asking me to take on a role that will not only require me to spend tons of time, but also tons of money, you'd damn well better ask me over brunch. Plus, I've seen those snazzy "Will you be my bridesmaid?" packages that brides send out nowadays and I really want one that I can Instagram, too.
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I know how you want me to answer this: "Omg, what's wrong?" But, on principle, I refuse to do it. This is the equivalent of those Facebook statuses that basically demands a pity party. I will not throw you a pity party. (But I will, inevitably, end up texting you back to make sure you're actually okay.)
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Gossiping via text can be just as tempting (and addictive) as gossiping in person. But when anyone can very easily screenshot and share a message, it's just not smart — or nice. Gossip always comes back to haunt you, especially when it's over text.
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This is almost as bad as tweeting at me to ask if I got your email. Keep the communication within the same social channel, please. Call a girl crazy, but between texts, emails, voicemails, tweets, Facebook messages, snaps, and Instagrams (whew!) everything is confusing enough. Just shoot me another email to bring it to the top of my inbox and we'll be good.
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It doesn't matter if it's a funeral, graduation, or holiday — hearing those three words of support are always a helpful boost. Yes, it's just a text, but it really does mean a lot.