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Yogis, rejoice! In this sturdy pose, the receiver bends over and “tents” their body, much like a downward dog, while the giver stands behind. This configuration allows for vigorous sex without risking the two of you falling over (it happens!).
The receiver also has the ability to control the pace and depth of penetration by bending or straightening their knees. While this pose won’t deliver direct G-spot/prostate stimulation, it is great for those who crave deep, intense penetration. As a person who tires quickly, I find that this pose is great towards the end of having standing sex when I find myself running out of steam. Taking the pressure off of my legs and core and putting a bit of work into my arms allows me to keep going for even longer.
This position allows for momentum and gravity to ramp up the intensity of penetration. The giver stands behind the receiver, much like in the mopping position. But instead of the receiver bending over and using the floor to brace themselves, the giver holds the receiver’s hands behind their back to keep them upright at a 90-degree angle. Not only does this position allow for deep penetration, but it also lets the receiver relax while their weight acts as a counterbalance.
The Sexy Prune
If you’re a size queen or king, you’ll love how this position creates a sensation of tightness and fullness, regardless of a penis or dildo’s size. The receiver lays on their back on a surface that is waist-level for the standing giver. The receiver raises their legs to make a 90-degree angle and has the option to cross their legs to create greater friction. As the giver penetrates, the pelvic muscles of the receiver create compression. Internally rotating the legs will create more pressure in the vaginal canal, while externally rotating the legs creates more pressure in the anal canal.
In this position, the receiver stands as the giver kneels or sits below them and performs oral sex.
“Standing helps a person feel sexy and powerful,” says Dr. Castellanos, adding that “letting your partner kiss and caress your whole body up and down” as you stand can make the experience even sexier.
It’s so true — if I’m giving a blowjob in this position, I love having both of my hands free to wrap around my partner’s thighs or reach up and grab at his chest. Even though we aren’t face-to-face, this can be an incredibly sensual pose.
As the receiver of this position, I also love the beautiful aerial view of my partner’s face buried in my crotch. Pro tip: The receiver can lean against a wall if standing for long periods of time causes discomfort.
Ah, one of my favorite poses for tight spaces — the Candle is essentially spooning, or getting fucked from behind, while standing. In this position, the receiver can tighten or loosen how tightly they’re keeping their thighs together in order to control the sensation.
Additionally, the receiver can lean into a wall for added support — I personally find it incredibly arousing to be confined and smooshed up against a wall, especially in a small shower.
During my research, I found that this pose seemed to be among the most popular. Dr. Britton says that this could be because it “allows you to have your hands free to kiss and caress your partner’s back and neck.” It’s also a relatively simple position, and allows both partners to be completely upright — not just the giver.
“It’s more of a cardiovascular workout, and you can have more control over how your body moves with your partner, leading to more pleasure and sensation,” notes Shannon Chavez, MD, a licensed psychologist and sex therapist based in L.A.