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What Your First-Dance Song Says About Your Relationship

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    When it comes to selecting the song for your first dance at your wedding, everyone's got an opinion. Do you go for a sappy ballad that'll make your parents' eyes well up while your friends convulse in laughter? Do you shell out for dance lessons so you can do that classic Sinatra tune justice? Do you just go with the song that actually means something to you and your new spouse, even though you're pretty sure the lyrics are about heartbreak, drug abuse, infidelity, or other non-eternal-love-related topics?

    There are so many options. Fast. Slow. Sentimental. Silly. Uplifting. Maudlin. Gershwin. Disney. Dion.

    To help you narrow your playlist down — or to potentially make you rethink the song you already shimmied to in some hotel ballroom as disco lights flickered — we've highlighted some popular first-dance song choices. Are they right for you? What do they say about your relationship? Is Ed Sheeran the only way forward?

    The answers lie ahead...

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    Bruno Mars, "Marry You"
    You were torn between this and "Just the Way You Are." This song will immediately be followed by "Happy." You got engaged in a flash mob. One of you is wearing a trilby/Converse/funky socks.

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    Etta James, "At Last"
    You're an old-school romantic at heart. Also, you dated for years and years before a ring ever surfaced. Or you dated, broke up, married other people, bumped into each other at the high school reunion, and finally got together. Or, you're a gay couple who has been waiting decades for the courts to let you marry, and you'd like to have something romantic while still throwing in an "about effing time" jab.

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    Dixie Chicks, "Cowboy Take Me Away"
    At least one of you is from the South, but neither of you is an actual cowboy. The wedding venue is lousy with Mason jars and wildflowers. You lost your virginity to "Strawberry Wine," but right now you're all about the jam-jar margarita bar you insisted upon for the reception. You're traditional, but not conservative. Right now you're girl-bossing it up while the two of you save up enough money to buy the dreamy country house you've always wanted.

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    The Beach Boys, "God Only Knows"
    You're one of those couples who loves to argue, because you love to make up. Huge public displays of affection aren't really your thing. Having to dance in front of all these people is excruciating. You chose this song because it's short and not too schmaltzy. Also, you each think that the other person is the one who'd be nowhere without you.

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    Bright Eyes, "First Day of My Life"
    You heard this at a party and just knew. One day you would get married (spouse TBD) and this would be your first dance. Then you met someone at a party and just knew. One day that would be the first person dancing with you to this song. And, sure, you've done a lot in your life — a year abroad in Ecuador, a master's degree in art therapy, fostering rescued cats, starting your own gluten-free bakery — but really, now is when your real life starts. The second day of your life involves embarking on a cross-country road trip in an old VW bus for the honeymoon.