I'd been covering weddings at Refinery29 for about six months when my boyfriend proposed to me last summer. We were on vacation in Big Sur, California, and I had no idea he'd been carrying around a diamond ring in his pocket for weeks, waiting for the right moment. He asked, I said yes, and we spent the rest of the day (and the trip) grinning at each other like idiots. Very happy idiots.
And then...we got home. That's when I started to realize that planning a wedding can have some very strange side effects, even if you consider yourself to be a low-maintenance bride. It can turn an otherwise rational human being into a highly sensitive, insecure weirdo. With my own wedding fast approaching, I've compiled a list of 11 things you should never say to a bride — and some of them might surprise you. Have you made these faux pas without even realizing it? Find out, ahead.