I have a confession to make: I have a minor addiction to what might be described as new school self-help books. The
Life-Changing Magic of Tidying? Yep, my apartment has been Kondo'd many times over. The Happiness Project? Before it was a podcast, it was a book that I turned to whenever I felt like my life was veering off course and needed a little redirection.
And then there's
Tiny Beautiful Things, a collection of advice columns by Wild author Cheryl Strayed that has basically been my bible for how to be a better person — and also give myself a break for not being perfect. (We're all just human, right?)
So what do all these books have in common, apart from the fact that they're my go-to gifts for friends during the holidays? Though they vary in subject, these titles are all inspirational reads that might just help get you over the hump when you need a little push. Getting your read on never felt so good.
By Anjali Kumar Stalking God After her first child was born, Kumar, a lawyer at Google, set forth on a spiritual quest to find something bigger than herself. Something to believe in. During her global journey, she met with shamans in Peru, fervent participants of SoulCycle, and the annual Burning Man festival in Nevada, among countless other organizations. Kumar's account will appeal to anyone who's similarly curious about all those Big Questions.
Redefining Realness By Janet Mock Janet Mock's memoir came out in 2014, a year after Laverne Cox made her debut as trans inmate Sophia Burset on Orange is the New Black. The memoir emerged just as media representation of trans individuals was changing — for the better. You'll travel with Mock between the ages of 19 and 25. She mixes pop culture, social justice, personal narrative, and wry perspective for a reading experience that will leave you enlightened and empathetic.
Backwards and in Heels By Alicia Malone Women have always faced an uphill battle in Hollywood. Alicia Malone explains in specific detail the challenges women faced, especially during the Golden Age, and also how they worked the system to their advantage. Not only will you be inspired by the stories Malone describes — you'll also walk away with Hollywood trivia to reveal during your next trip to bar trivia.
Persepolis By Marjane Satrapi In this acclaimed graphic novel, Satrapi looks back on her childhood situated on the cusp of the Iranian revolution. Her country's governing principals change radically in a number of years, and Satrapi is expected to change along with them. With humor and poignancy, Satrapi captures a life caught up in Big Historical Movements. Her journey of growing up and finding herself amid such turmoil is inspiring.
The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help By Amanda Palmer Amanda Palmer seems like she's utterly fearless. She's a singer and artist known for pulling off wild stunts, like posing in a wedding dress in the middle of New York, motionlessly, for hours. Even if being in public didn't scare her, the simple act of asking for help did. This book tracks her journey becoming comfortable with vulnerability, and being comfortable with help.
Invisible Cities By Italo Calvino Invisible Cities consists of a conversation between Kublai Khan, emperor of unfathomable riches, and Marco Polo, the Italian explorer who's roamed the world and seen unbelievable sights, before moving on to the next destination. With entrancing language, Marco tells Kublai of cities he's passed through. Impossible cities. In Adelma, the only faces you see are the faces of loved ones you've lost. Zobeide is full of dead ends. Each city will make you reinterpret the world around you. You'll emerge from this book fresh and glittering like a person who's seen a great wonder, and in this case, it was constructed only from words.
Better Than Before By Gretchen Rubin You know what's just as hard as licking your elbow? Actually sticking to new habits. But fear no more. In this followup to The Happiness Project, in which Rubin explored how we can work our way out of wondering, incessantly, whether or not we are happy, Rubin will cure your habit-forming woes. She will teach you how to choose a new self-improvement project, and keeping choosing it every day.
See Joan Run By Tara Rossi, Heidi Schoeneck, Tracy Mathison See Joan Run — for office! This parody of Fun With Dick and Jane, created by the nonpartisan She Should Run network, follows a woman navigating a political world of "Dicks." All proceeds go to She Should Run's efforts to encourage more women to begin their political careers.
How to Get Run Over by a Truck By Katie McKenna On a street corner in Williamsburg, 24-year-old Katie McKenna's life was changed forever. McKenna was run over by an 18-wheeler truck while on her usual morning bike ride. This was not an accident McKenna should have survived. And yet: Two months in the hospital, and four months of recovery later, survive she did. McKenna manages to be funny when describing a situation where humor seems sparse, especially as the scars of her accident were emotional just as much as they were physical. McKenna's memoir may deal with a devastatingly specific accident, but the theme she explores — trauma — will resonate with many.
Gift From the Sea By Anne Morrow Lindbergh By the time she sat down to write this sparse, lyrical book, Lindbergh was already a mother of five and a professional writer. A trip to the seaside inspired her to write her thoughts on the writing life, the good life, and the life of a woman. It's a book you can turn to again and again, especially if a seaside setting provokes bouts of introspection for you, too.
Option B: Advice for Grieving By Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant When her beloved husband, David Goldberg, died suddenly on a family vacation, Sheryl Sandberg experienced feeling like she was in a "void." This book, co-written with psychologist Adam Grant, tracks Sandberg's journey out from that void. It's a manual for resilience. If you're having a hard time, the lessons found in Option B will life you up.
Humans of New York by Brandon Stanton You don't have to look exclusively towards public figures and fictional protagonists for inspiration. You can also be inspired by strangers, those throngs of people you pass by on the street and never have the opportunity to speak to. Brandon Stanton made a habit of listening to strangers' stories, and not just the ones in New York. This functions as a tear-jerker and a coffee table book.
All These Wonders: True Stories About Facing the Unknown edited by Catherine Burns The Moth is a worldwide storytelling collective that gives regular people the opportunity to tell ten-minute stories to a live audience. The Moth's weekly podcast gives you the chance to hear those stories told live. But if books are more your thing, then this collection of stories will move you to tears, joy, and inspiration just as much as the podcast will.
The Power of Myth By Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyers Get ready to think of the world, and your place in it, in an utterly new light. For mythologist Joseph Campbell, all the world's civilizations are linked together through pursuit of the same gaping questions about the human experience. In this extended and transcribed interview, Campbell speaks to journalist Bill Moyers about how all of us live out the great patterns of mythology. There's a hero's journey in all of us.
M Train By Patti Smith Ever wish you were more of a rock and roll star? With M Train by Patti Smith, you gain an introspective insight into Smith's life as a real rock and roller. Though don't expect a wild memoir. Instead, M Train is a series of melancholy recollections of travel, loss, and the landmarks in her life that are now gone forever.
I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings By Maya Angelou Maya Angelou, iconic American poet, looks back at the childhood that made her who she was. She's a little girl abandoned by her mother, and living with her devout grandmother in a town full of racists; she's an older girl who's sexually assaulted by a man while living with her mother; finally, she's an independent woman, with the freedom to explore her higher mind in San Francisco. In this harrowing memoir — the first of a series of seven — Angelou's love for writing and literature helps her weather a series of increasingly disturbing events, including rape, abuse, poverty, and abject racism.
Congratulations, By the Way By George Saunders Saunders' graduation speech went viral, and rightfully so. In his uniquely hilarious, humble voice, Saunders tells us how he came to prize kindness above all other virtues. The kind life, he says, is not necessarily the easiest one — but it's the only one worth living. It will make you cry. You will buy copies for your friends.
Hope in the Dark Rebecca Solnit This slim book, which explores historical moments in which activism has triumphed over particularly grim times, was first published in 2004. In 2016, which many considered to be the start of another dark time, the book was republished. Solnit's message of hope is touching readers much in the same way it did over a decade ago.
A Wrinkle in Time By Madeline L'Engle A Wrinkle in Time is one of those children's books that just gets better the older you get. On the surface, the story of a bookish girl, her brilliant younger brother, and their new friend going on a cosmic quest to rescue their father trapped in the dark, evil center of the universe reads like science fiction. Really, though, it's a nuanced fable about kids' first encounters with evil, and being good in the face of dark forces.
Travels With Charley By John Steinbeck By the time he set out on a cross-country trip with only his poodle, Charley, as company, John Steinbeck was already a Great American Author. He'd made his living writing stories about the American people. In 1960, he decided he needed to actually go and meet more of those people, and traveled with the question, "What are Americans like?" in mind. Travels With Charley comes now as a memo from a time, and an America, much different than our own. Travels With Charley is less a travelogue and more a novel that Steinbeck forged through real conversations and observations. It'll inspire you to take a road trip and adopt a dog.
The Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy By Douglas Adams In its own way, this very goofy book about the last Earthling left alive going on a grand intergalactic adventure is pretty inspiring. One never knows what's possible by saying yes to things. When Arthur Dent says yes to getting into his friend's spaceship before the Earth was demolished to make way for an intergalactic highway, he opens the door for the rest of his life.
My Beloved World By Sonia Sotomayor Long before she became a Supreme Court justice, Sonia Sotomayor was a little girl living in a housing project in the Bronx. Her father was an alcoholic, and her loving mother was busy working. So, when she was diagnosed with juvenile diabetes at the age of seven, no one was there to sterilize the needles and give her the injections. From then on, she was self reliant. This book tracks Sotomayor's incredible career, from the day she was a little girl with a grave responsibility all the way to Princeton, to the Federal District Court, and finally, to the highest court of them all.
The Glass Castle By Jeannette Walls Eleven years ago, Jeannette Walls introduced us to her larger-than-life family in this best-selling, mega-hit memoir. She describes what a childhood being raised by two adventure-seekers who shirked convention and responsibility was like. At times, invigorating. Usually, terrifying, and lacking the expected warmth and security of childhood. How did Walls go from being destitute in West Virginia to a successful New York writer? Her clear-eyed grit will inspire you to toughly forge forward in the direction of your own dreams.
The Architecture of Happiness by Alain de Botton How much does the space in which you live bring you happiness? How much is who you are influenced by where you are? With de Botton's help, you'll survey your environment with new, more thoughtful eyes.
Thinking, Fast and Slow By Daniel Kahneman Written by the winner of the Nobel Prize in Economics, Thinking, Fast and Slow will hack the way you think about your thoughts. In the tome, Kahneman proposes that we process the world using two different "systems," as he calls them. "System 1" is the emotional, reflexive part of us. "System 2" takes the logical approach. Next time you make a decision, you can use Kahneman's guidance to take either the fast or slow approach.
Siddharta By Herman Hesse After reading this classic tale of a young prince who renounces his worldly possessions and seeks out spiritual enlightenment, you might be inspired to change your own way of life, too.
The Unlikely Pyramid of Harold Frye By Rachel Joyce Harold Frye is unhappy in retirement and unhappy in marriage. Then, a letter from his lost love, Queenie Hennessy, arrives at his doorstep. Queenie's writing from the hospice to say goodbye. Instead of mailing a letter, Harold is seized with the urge to hand-deliver the letter to the hospice 600 miles from his hose. So long as he's walking, he thinks Queenie will live.
A Man Called Ove By Fredrik Backman After his wife dies, Ove is prepared to follow her into the Great Beyond. Too bad his new next-door neighbors — an Iranian immigrant, her Swedish husband, and their two daughters — keep asking the grumpy but handy Ove for help around the house. Reluctantly, Ove becomes pulled into the lives of his neighbors. This tale of friendship and redemption is wildly popular for a reason. It'll make you cry.
The Lonely Planet Travel Anthology With these swashbuckling short-form travel essays from literary powerhouses like Ann Patchett, Alexander McCall Smith, and Pico Iyer, you'll be inspired with the take on the world. It's just outside the door.
Felicity By Mary Oliver Mary Oliver's known for her exquisite poetry about nature and physical landscapes. Here, she turns her generous eye to matters of the human heart. She defines joy, love, and happiness with such accuracy that you, too, will feel joy, love, and happiness.
The Joy Luck Club By Amy Tan Each week, four Chinese immigrant mothers gather together to play mahjong and talk about their shared histories. And each week, their four Chinese-American daughters feel the gulf between their experiences in America and their mothers'. Over the course of this iconic novel, the daughters unravel the secrets of their mother's pasts, and achieve breakthroughs in understanding.
The Book Thief By Markus Zusak This astounding novel tells the story of a young girl in Nazi-occupied Germany, whose adopted parents take in a Jewish refugee. Sounds like a typical historical fiction novel, but it's not — Zusak's novel is narrated by the cheeky, all-knowing, ominous character of Death itself. This book will change you.
The Better Angels of Our Nature By Steven Pinker Bill Gates tweeted that this is "[ The Better Angels of Our Nature] is most inspiring book I've ever read." In the book, Pinker argues that the world is, largely, getting better. According to Pinker, we're currently in the most peaceful epoch of our time. If it's good enough for Gates, it's good enough for us.
Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype By Clarissa Pinkola Estés In this influential work, Pinkola Estés examines classic myths, fairy tales, and folk tales using Jungian philosophy. While it sounds dry, trust me — this is anything but. If you're lost and need to be found; if you're out of touch with your inner song; if you're aching to burst with creativity and renewal – this book is for you. We all have a Wild Woman within. This book will help you find her.
The Journey is the Destination By Dan Eldon Dan Eldon was only 22 years old when he was killed by a mob while covering the war in Somalia. But before that tragedy, Eldon's swashbuckling life and impressive career as a war photographer was near unbelievable. Eldon's optimism and boundless energy live on in this collection of illustrative journals, written between the ages of 14-22, and in a feature film made about his life.
Letters to a Young Poet By Ranier Maria Rilke The German poet Ranier Maria Rilke wrote a series of 10 letters to a 19-year-old cadet, who sought the poet's advice on his own literary career. In the letters, Rilke explores the ingredients for a good, authentic life. You'll balloon with inspiration by page two.
Your Illustrated Guide to Becoming One with the Universe By Yumi Sakugawa This exquisite graphic novel draws you into the world of metaphysics, mindfulness, and mediation. A book for people who want to be one with life, the universe, and everything, this is "self help" at its hippest.
How Should a Person Be? By Sheila Heti Heti invents a new genre in this part confessional memoir, part self-help manual, part novel about a playwright left reeling after a failed marriage.
The Geography of Bliss By Eric Weiner We distinguish between countries with metrics like GDP, but how about measures of happiness? NPR foreign correspondent Eric Weiner sets off on a round-the-world journey in quest of the happiest country on earth. While jumping from Iceland to India to Bhutan, Weiner offers insights on foreign affairs, the psychology of happiness, and some suggestions for how you, too, can be as happy as the people of Asheville, North Carolna.
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Lincoln in the Bardo By George Saunders In this revolutionary work of fiction, Saunders channels hundreds of narrators to create a pastiche narrative around one seminal moment in American history: the death of Abraham Lincoln's son. The characters, both dead and undead, piece together a portrait of Lincoln at his lowest. But really, this isn't just a book about Abraham Lincoln. With his clear belief in the goodness of people, George Saunders has written a book on how to live a good life despite the inevitability of loss.
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The Life of Pi By Yann Martel When Pi is 16 years old, he, his family, and their entire batch of zoo animals board a boat that will take them from India to North America. The ship sinks, and Pi is the sole survivor. Well, let's revise. Pi finds himself sharing a lifeboat with a hyena, an orangutan, a wounded zebra, and Richard Parker, a massive Bengal Tiger. In long, surreal, sparkling passages, Martel describes Pi's fight for survival and sanity over his 227-day journey.
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Wild By Cheryl Strayed It's time to indoctrinate yourself into the Cheryl Strayed fan club. At the age of 22, Cheryl Strayed's life was at a low point: she'd just lost her mother, was getting divorced, and was hooked on heroine. Four years later, she decided to reboot her life with a solitary trek up the Pacific Crest Trail, stretching from the Mojave Desert to Washington State. You don't have to take the hike to be bettered by the wisdom Strayed picked up along the way.
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Men Explain Things to Me By Rebecca Solnit If you've ever used the term "mansplaining" to explain the phenomenon of a man pedantically to a woman, you have Rebecca Solnit's tiny tome to thank. In this collection of essays, Solnit explores a variety of issues extremely relevant to today's woman. While reading, you're likely to experience a whirlwind of empowerment, anger, and, most importantly, the inspiration to make a change in the way you walk through the world.
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The Alchemist By Paulo Coelho A young Andalusian shepherd leaves his home to find worldly pleasures. Aside from the Andalusian shepherd bit, sounds a lot like the rest of us, right? Written in simple and beautiful language, Paolo Coehlo’s poetic allegory will inspire you to follow your heart. The Alchemist is the second best selling book in the world, so you’ll be inducted into a large community of people equally touched by Santiago’s dreamquest.
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The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up By Marie Kondo Should you keep things that give you no joy? That's the revolutionary question behind Kondo's sensational approach to life organization. And if it only inspires you to clean out that junky desk drawer to make room for your art supplies ... Well, isn't that enough?
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Bad Feminist By Roxane Gay It's tough times, ladies — but luckily, we've got a roadmap for how to get through them, courtesy of our favorite "bad feminist." This collection traverses personal memories and political ideologies, all while interrogating the concept of a "good" feminist. No matter where you fall on the feminism spectrum though, one thing is for sure: Gay's book will give you some serious food for thought.
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Travels with Myself and Another by Martha Gellhorn If you haven't taken the deep dive into Martha Gellhorn obsession, now's the time to get acquainted. The renowned journalist spent much of her life traveling and trying to make sense of the horrors of the world. To boot, she's just really fucking funny. (It's just not fair, you know?) In her memoir, Travels with Myself and Another, Gellhorn trains her keen wit on her own experiences, reflecting on what she's witnessed. "Nothing is better for self-esteem than survival," she writes in the opening sentences. Read this if you're looking to travel, to survive, to live, and to be a person.
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The Empathy Exams by Leslie Jamison Jamison's series of essay is exactly what it purports to be: an examination of empathy. The first essay catalogues Jamison's experience as a practice medical patient. (As in, she pretended to be a patient for medical students.) What emerges is a deep rumination on how we cultivate empathy in our lives and how — most importantly — we can be empathetic towards ourselves.
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Bird By Bird by Anne Lamott Lamott's 1994 book on writing gives advice that applies to your writerly life — and literally everything else. The book derives its title from her father's advice re: a book report on birds. "Just take it bird by bird." Want to write? Take it bird by bird. Sentence by sentence. Want to become a morning person? Take it day by day. Lamott's elegantly worded advice — she is a writer, after all — speaks to the quiet dedication life requires if you want to accomplish anything at all. She believes the act of writing (and the act of trying to write) more important than publication or reward. She encourages crappy writing and failed attempts. Read the book, page by page, and savor its kindly encouraging advice.
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Not That Kind Of Girl By Lena Dunham Yep, we're counting this one as inspirational. Dunham is one of our favorite (literal) lady bosses; she accomplished a lot during the wild twentysomething years, and she definitely has wisdom to deliver, with wit to boot.
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How To Be A Person In The World By Heather Havrilesky Do you read Dear Polly? If you do, then you already know why this book is the best. If you don't, you're majorly missing out, for reasons that we explained in great detail right here.
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The Year of Magical Thinking By Joan Didion When Joan Didion's husband, the writer John Gregory Dunne, passed away, she was left to cope with the hole in her life, and in her heart. But this memoir is more elegy than eulogy, as well as a beautiful portrait of how one woman grieves her great loss.
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When Breath Becomes Air By Paul Kalanithi Paul Kanthani was a successful doctor in the prime of his life when he learned he had terminal cancer; but in addition to being a brilliant medical mind, he was also a beautiful writer and observer of the human condition. Compiled from his papers and finished by his wife after Kalanithi's passing, When Breath Becomes Air is an at once heartbreaking and hope-giving book about what it means to truly appreciate life and the little moments that make up our days.
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The Happiness Project By Gretchen Rubin Another (slightly) oldie but still goodie: Gretchen Rubin shakes out the cobwebs of her life and figures out how to channel her days toward happiness in a larger sense. If you're feeling blue, this is a practical how-to for shaking things up.
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The Five People You Meet In Heaven By Mitch Albom An oldie and a goodie, this book is a work of fiction that functions as a parable for appreciating the time we spend here on this pretty little planet.
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Big Magic By Elizabeth Gilbert Even if you sort of think Eat, Pray, Love is insufferable, Big Magic is, well, actually magical. Smart and insightful, and full of that Elizabeth Gilbert charm, Big Magic is the author fully embracing her accidental guru side — and if you're someone who is still working on unleashing their creative potential (aren't we all) then this book, and the podcast of the same name, could be the answer.
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Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice On Love & Life From Dear Sugar By Cheryl Strayed Lifted directly from Strayed's long-running column at The Rumpus, Dear Sugar is a compilations of personal essays meant to answer the readers who wrote in with their heartaches, heartbreaks, and questions about how to deal with the curveballs life throws our way. But while she's speaking to specific people, Strayed's writing is wonderfully universal, and her wisdom is at once deeply contextualizing and comforting. A perfect pick-me-up that will make you cry and also want to dry your tears.
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The Year Of Yes By Shonda Rhimes Um, what advice wouldn't we take from the powerhouse of network TV? Rhimes is basically a genius in our book — and in her book, she proves that by giving badass and totally applicable advice about how to silence self-doubt and channel the person you are truly meant to be. There is a reason that this one is a bestseller many-times over, and you'll find it in the pages.
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Books for Living by Will Schwalbe When looking to better your life through books, where better to start than a book on the best literature for living your life? Will Schwalbe, a journalist and avid reader, will give you all the pull quotes you need from the various authors that have inspired Schwalbe. The veteran writer and editor uses Melville's Bartleby of "the scrivener" to justify your impulse to give up. (Truth be told, giving up can be one of the healthiest things you do for your well being.) Best yet, Schwalbe encourages you to cancel plans and spend a night at home — the type of advice everyone needs to hear on a Saturday night.
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The Opposite Of Loneliness By Marina Keegan Elie Wiesel once said that the opposite of love isn't hate: It's indifference. The opposite of loneliness is equally opaque — but it's what this smart, thoughtful collection gets at. Another layer: Keegan was newly graduate from Yale and starting a job at The New Yorker when she died tragically in a car crash; her hope for the future makes this collection all the more moving, a reminder that life is precious and should be lived to its fullest.
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