15 People Share Their Unfiltered Thoughts On 69-ing

Illustrated by Anna Sudit.
When it comes to getting creative with oral sex, 69-ing is probably the most iconic position. Executed when both partners simultaneously perform oral sex on each other, usually with one on top of the other, the 69 position can be mutually satisfying and easily illustrated by a two-digit number. But people definitely have their opinions on it.
While some dismiss 69-ing as awkward or even gimmicky, others are either curious about mastering it or flat-out love it. For whatever reason, it's become a particularly polarizing sex act (much like scissoring). So, to help figure out why that is, we asked members of the R29 community to tell us how they really feel about 69-ing.
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Sure, their responses didn't answer that question once and for all, but they reminded us of that age-old truth about sex positions: If you like it, do it. If you don't like it, don't do it. Doesn't get simpler than that, does it?
Ahead, check out our readers' unfiltered thoughts on 69-ing — and share your own in the comments.
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The concept is hot.

"*Groan* If I were the female John Oliver, I would have a 'Why Is This Still A Thing?' segment on 69-ing. The concept is hot — both of you getting some sweet attention. The reality is sour. I've yet to find a way for both parties to be comfortable and maybe it's just me, but if I'm getting a guy to go down on me, I want to focus and savor every glorious moment — not be distracted by giving him head, too."

-Hannah, 22
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I liked it when I was younger.

"I liked it when I was younger and more flexible. Not so much now."

-Chris, 48
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I used to just endure it!

"As a female, I started 69-ing because it turned my male partner on. That's it. I used to just endure it! As I've gotten older and started paying more attention to my body and caring more for what pleases myself, I tend to get distracted. If he's doing a really a nice job, I'm probably going to start slacking. Which sort of defeats the purpose, right?"

-Jade, 22
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It's the number-one, surefire way to get me to orgasm.

"It's the number-one, surefire way to get me to orgasm. I have a hard time letting go and focusing on the moment, and since there's a lot going on to listen to physically, it's much easier to be free."

-Emma, 24
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Huge fan.

"Huge fan."

-Dotti, 52
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I prefer not to multitask.

"I prefer not to multitask, but I do enjoy the give-take of the position."

-Sara, 39
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A little mutual pleasure helps.

"Love it! A little mutual pleasure helps get things humming."

-Nate, 28
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I like it with the right partner!

"I like it with the right partner! It can be very hot, but bodies don't always line up right."

-A, 31
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My S.O. and I only do it on special occasions.

"I love it. But my S.O. and I only do it on special occasions."

-Oliva, 20
10 of 15

It's for young people.

"It's for young people who don't have enough time before their parents come home."

-Jen, 36
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Rarely able to enjoy it.

"Love it, but rarely able to enjoy it anymore. Partner unwilling, she hates it."

-PJ, 50
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I feel like the dude's looking at my butthole.

"I'm definitely not a fan. If I'm on top, I feel like the dude's looking at my butthole. And it's hard to give and receive at the same time, it's too easy to get distracted."

-Gabby, 20
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I'd rather be able to lay back and relax.

"Its alright. I do it more for my partner then myself. I'd rather be able to lay back and relax while receiving oral sex."

-Kat, 27
14 of 15

69-ing does not work with a height difference.

"We've tried it but 69-ing does not work with a height difference. I'm an entire head taller than her. It's just uncomfortable and hard to pull off."

-M, 19
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We probably do it around once every two weeks.

"Love it. My girlfriend loves it too, we probably do it around once every two weeks."

-Adam, 15
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