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But, really, I'm writing this post to stand by Andi's best point in the argument. The most infuriating part of the situation to Andi, and to me, was that Juan Pablo reportedly ignored every story she told, every attempt at honest conversation, instead brushing it away with a callous "It's okay." Guys everywhere, please take note: Telling a woman "It's okay," is not an okay answer to an outpouring of emotion. It's dismissive, and, quite frankly, unhelpful. Sometimes things are not okay, and instead of uncomfortably reassuring a girl with a "besito" or a stock phrase, you should tell them you're listening. Or, as Andi herself suggested, repeat back to her what she just said before saying it will work out in the end — and only if it's what you truly believe. "I'm not in love with you, and I don't think I will be in love with you," Andi explained. "It's okay," Juan Pablo responded. Cringe, cringe, cringe!
The fallout of the argument was twofold. First, it highlights a weakness in Juan Pablo's ability to communicate. Whether this is due to a language barrier or true callousness is unclear. Have I mentioned, yet, that skimming over attempts at emotional intimacy is generally not the way to win a woman? Second, it suggests that Andi may be a front runner for the upcoming season of Bachelorette. She took charge; she knows what she wants; and she's not afraid to be vocal about it. And yet, she's fun to watch and easygoing enough to roll with the punches of a fresh bunch of bachelors. Problem is, with this experience behind her, we doubt she'll be signing up for round two.
Anyway, how's your bracket looking? Any predictions for next week's "Women Tell All" or the finale episode? One thing we can all likely agree upon, no matter who JP chooses: "It's okay." Or, you know, not.