Trey Berre, attorney and founder of Artfully Disheveled
How do you balance your career with fatherhood?
"It's extremely challenging balancing my day job as an attorney, growing Artfully Disheveled, and my family life. Making sure that I have time to spend with Maria and Fiona is extremely important to me, but because Fiona is only 6 months old and her bed time is like 6:45 p.m., there are days that I don't see her because I leave for the office early and get home too late."
"Managing a demanding work schedule is a bit of an art. I try and front load my work at the beginning of the day so that I can get home just before Fiona goes down for bed and have time to play with her or, in the alternative, watch her melt down during the 'witching hour.' What I miss on the weekdays I do my best to make up for on the weekends."
What are some of the things you like to do in Chicago when you are hanging with Fiona?
"Fiona was born at the end of December — just in time for the dead of winter. Maria and I found our social-life paradigm change from evenings out late to capitalizing on the time we have with Fiona during the day, by taking long lunches with friends at places like Uncommon Ground, Bar on Buena, or Brownstone Tavern in our old 'hood. This spring we took Fiona to her first festival — Maifest in Lincoln Square. Once she gets a bit older though, I have a feeling we will be spending a lot of time at the MCA, Lincoln Park Zoo, and the Shedd."
We live in kinda scary times these days. What dating advice do you think you'll give Fiona when she grows up?
"Who said my daughter is going to be allowed to date? This is a question that spurs a lot of concern, so allow me to be brutally honest here (and I know many guys my age with daughters who can relate). I don't know that it is just dating that concerns me as much as dating in a world of social media. It was a lot easier when I was growing up without cell phones. Now parents have to worry about sh-t like sexting. The tough conversation parents had with their kids before they started dating used to be about the birds and the bees and now I have to develop a story about what happens if the bird were to receive a d-ck-pic from the bee? Come on."
"I don't think kids understand the serious long-term effects their actions can have in today's world. Sex-ed used to be about preventing STDs and pregnancy. Now, someone needs to invent a prophylactic for Facebook. I really just hope that we raise Fiona to be intelligent and cautious in the decisions that she makes when Mom and Dad are not around to protect her."
What do you love most about being a dad?
"Making her laugh and smile is a joy I could never have comprehended."
Photo: Courtesy of Maria Ponce