Single? Meet NYC's 22 Hottest Bachelors

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[UPDATE: This story was originally published on August 27, 2014.]
Carrie Bradshaw once said, "New York is the perfect place to be single. The city is your date." Well, not to hate on Sex and the City, but spending time wandering New York's many restaurants, bars, and museums solo doesn't exactly sound like the idea of a good time. Plus, having to spend our single hours sifting through OkCupid or Tinder to find a potential suitor is equally — if not less — appealing.
Seriously, try sifting through 8.4 million people to find THE one. Why does it seem that, with so many available people at our fingertips, it's nearly impossible to find someone who isn't a total creep? (Oh, and is smart, handsome, and funny, too). Are we asking too much?
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Well, you can call us your matchmaker, because we've dug deep into the New York singles scene to find 22 of the most eligible bachelors of 2014. From an NBA stylist to a real estate agent to a music producer, there's a little something in here for everyone's romantic needs. Go on — start swooning over these sexy single men, and let the Facebook friending commence!
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Name: William Yu
Age: 23
Location: Columbus Circle
Job Title: Junior Associate, Interactive Program Management, SapientNitro
Sexual Preference: Women
Twitter: @williyuu
Instagram: @williyuu

What do you look for in a significant other?
"A woman who is passionate and optimistic about what she cares about. If she is willing to face and experience new challenges in this crazy city, I’m in."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Bar Jamón in Gramercy and Satsko in the East Village. Small, intimate, good food/drinks, and great conversation. Lincoln Plaza Cinemas is also a quality choice for an indie movie night."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I’m just as nervous as you are. Dependability is a trait I highly value. And, I’m just as nervous as you are."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"Full disclosure: My new job starts in two weeks! I’m excited to work in a space where creativity, strategy, and technology collide. I can’t wait to be surrounded in an environment where I can nerd out with my colleagues about what’s new in wearables or how we can communicate the perfect narrative a brand wants to convey."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"I’m an absolute sucker for bowling! It’s a game that you can have a great time playing whether you’re going for 300 or praying for a pin to go down — I’m somewhere in the middle."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"For me: Oxford shirt (thanks Uniqlo!), jeans, and my Clarks.
For her: Confident and comfortable."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Smiling during our conversation is always a plus. Texting (barring an emergency) during our conversation is not."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"I am still a big proponent of the 'if you care about someone you will make time for them' belief. But, NYC definitely puts that notion to the test."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"I was recently part of a project called TipBombing, where we surprised NYC subway artists with a huge flash-mob-esque crowd. We not only got to drop a little cash in these talented peoples' pockets, but created a really happy and celebratory experience for everyone involved. Definitely a lot of warm fuzzies."

What was your worst date experience?
"Very fortunate to report no horror stories! Things haven’t always worked out, but I’m grateful to have shared time with some kind women along the way."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"I’ve come to terms that at this point in my life, I don’t get it. Love doesn’t make sense to me. But, I’m looking forward to that moment of realization when that something clicks and everything falls in line."
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Name: Philip Risman
Age: 24
Location: Flatiron & Greenwich, CT
Job Title: Founder & CEO, Risman Enterprises
Sexual Preference: Ladies
Twitter: @PhilipRisman
Instagram: @Risphil

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Someone who is charismatic, funny, confident, and isn’t afraid to be themselves around me."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Somewhere outdoors…maybe Central Park or a rooftop bar with a view. Also, I'd love to go to a sporting event if she is up for it: a night at the U.S. Open, or a hockey, baseball, basketball, or football game."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I’m spontaneous, I like to travel, and I love to hang out with my friends."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"I love the building process. I love taking something from its concept and figuring out how to make it a reality. I also love meeting, connecting, and working with others. Some of my best inspiration and ideas come from brainstorming with people."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"I love to be active and keep moving. I’m a big sports fanatic, whether it be playing golf or tennis, tossing a frisbee, baseball, or football in the park, or playing KanJam or beach volleyball on the beach. I also love to travel and explore new places (but not so much the food, I’m a pretty picky eater)."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"It all depends on how bold the date is. I typically wear jeans and a button-down, but you never know. For her, I think how she presents herself tells a lot, so I'll leave that to her creativity."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Humor, natural beauty, the ability to be independent, ambitious, compassionate, down-to-earth, adventurous, and athleticism. (Any knowledge or love for sports is a bonus.)
Turn-Offs: Someone who is superficial, negative, rude to others, insecure, arrogant, and overly dependent."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"In New York, there is always so much going on and so many things to do that sometimes it's hard to block out time to just be together and get away from it all."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"I guess a fourth thing you should know about me is that I don’t like to boast."

What was your worst date experience?
"I’ve been lucky to not have any 'worst dates;' there are just some that have been more memorable than others."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"Just let go and see what happens."
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Name: Andrew Kortina
Age: 31
Location: Soho
Job Title: Cofounder, Venmo
Sexual Preference: Women

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Zeal and curiosity — I find I learn the most from, and have the best conversations with, people who are passionate about what they do and always investigating how things work."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"I like to keep things low key. Maybe get lunch at Das Borscht and talk about Cantor's diagonal argument or stay in and watch reruns of Detective Ruxpin: Streets of Camden."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"1. I have a voracious appetite for knowledge.
2. I have stared into the abyss, in terror, and sometimes I think when you look into my eyes you might see it, too.
3) My favorite episode of Bodega Buddies is the one where they start stocking Twickers bars."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"[Venmo's] Lucas campaign — I was mostly involved in the production and only a little of the creative, but when I first saw the ads in the Bedford station, it looked like a pop-art installation, and I thought, 'This will probably be my magnum opus.' More generally, I love any sort of engineering/product work that gets me into the creative flow. Really, it’s just a pleasure getting to work with amazing colleagues. I learn a lot from them every day."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"Saturday morning soccer with Bowery Football Club, taking classes at Kula Yoga and SoulCycle, and learning (currently about supercapacitors and vertical farming).
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"My jeans are sharply creased, I have a fresh white T-shirt, and my cap is slightly pointed East. For her, one of my favorite passages of poetry (from Ovid’s Daphne and Apollo) comes to mind: “videt igne micantes sideribus similes oculos, videt oscula, quae non est vidisse satis; laudat digitosque manusque bracchiaque et nudos media plus parte lacertos; si qua latent, meliora putat.”

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"I’ve always had a penchant for a deft hand and extensive graffiti portfolio. I never really cared for dactylic tetrameter, and, more superficially, recumbent bicycles, razor scooters, and wheelie bags."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"Jazzy’s isn’t open for dinner."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"A friend of mine was struggling to turn around a failing restaurant, and I gave him the following concept, pro bono: a fusion restaurant that serves dishes like tater tots, hush puppies, and bacon-wrapped dates, and you eat with chopsticks."

What was your worst date experience?
"We ate at one of those restaurants with butcher paper and crayons on the table instead of a table cloth. I spent the first hour sketching storyboards in burnt sienna while she waited patiently through the secondi in silence. When I finally walked her through the pitch, she interrupted me two minutes in to tell me that I was describing the hit '80s show Alf."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"It’s hard to win, easy to lose."
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Name: Jonathan Parks-Ramage
Age: 30
Location: Fort Greene, Brooklyn
Job Title: Writer/Producer
Sexual Preference: Men
Twitter: @jpramage

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Someone who knows who they are and what they want. Someone with drive and purpose. Someone who is open and honest. Someone unafraid to eat cookie dough out of a tube."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"1. BAMcinématek: It's the best cinema in Brooklyn (and a block from my apartment).
2. Wallsé: Just be prepared to spend your rent on fish."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"1. The left side is mine.
2. Give me your heart, and I’ll give you everything (even the left side... maybe)...
3. ...but I will not see a Sandra Bullock movie with you. I’m sorry. I draw the line there."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"Writing is my life. I find nothing more satisfying or fulfilling than my work. Except the pancakes at Clinton Street Baking Co."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"I just moved and have spent way too much time in a furniture-hunting k-hole. Save me, please. Take me to your country home and AWAY from the Knoll showroom."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Mine: The first thing I tried on, after trying 10 subsequent things.
Yours: As long as it’s not a deep V-neck, we’re good."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-On: Someone who understands how a calendar works.
Turn-Off: Working out is not a viable topic of conversation. I would like to feel your incredible abs, but prefer not to discuss them at length over tapas."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"Location-based dating apps. My neighborhood has become an awkward-encounter minefield."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"I’m an excellent surprise-birthday-party planner."

What was your worst date experience?
"We went back to his place and started hooking up. Halfway in, his Spotify mix played Jessica Simpson’s rendition of 'Here Comes Santa Claus.' I LOL’ed. He didn’t. It was July."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"Be open. Give everything. Take the leap. Sometimes you’ll land flat on your face, but it always feels great to fly."
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Name: Dex Robinson
Age: 28
Location: Harlem
Job Title: NFL/NBA Stylist
Sexual Preference:Ladies Lover
Twitter: @DexRob
Instagram: @DexRob

What do you look for in a significant other?
"I would say a good mix of spontaneity and sense of humor, because I am extremely unpredictable. It wouldn’t hurt to have a little sense of style also!"

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"On dates, I like to be real low key, because too many extra elements will mess me up — my attention span is terrible. But, my favorite is this spot called Paint Along. It’s an hour, BYOB painting class — super fun."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"1. I still watch Martin reruns as if I never seen them before.
2. Mornings are not my friend.
3. I have 200 unread text messages."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"Being the BOSS (Rick Ross voice)! I guess working with athletes is cool, too."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"Sleep, take random walks, and Instagram. Even though I've been in NYC for six years, I still find myself discovering new things about my neighborhood during unplanned walks."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Me: White V-neck, black leather pants, and my crown (my hat).
Date: Not anything specific, but it has to be comfortable. There is nothing worse than first date who complains that her feet hurt."

What are your biggest turn-on/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Someone who takes initiative and has confidence.
Turn-Offs: Being insecure and having no common sense are deal breakers."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"People who don't act genuine."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"A response to this may get me in trouble..."

What was your worst date experience?
"Let’s just say dinner was on me…literally. Somebody decided to get sick, and, well, you know what happened next."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"You have to give to get…"
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Name: Jesse Marco
Age: 25
Location: Lower East Side
Job Title: DJ/Producer
Sexual Preference: Women
Twitter: @jessemarco
Instagram: @jessemarco

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Someone who’s as awesome as she looks."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Central Park, the zoo, or a low-key restaurant or bar."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"Bringing people joy and expressing myself."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"I play basketball and enjoy working out; I write a lot; I like going to the MoMA and the movies; and I like vegan pizza and cooking.
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Jeans and a T-shirt. She can wear whatever her heart desires."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Someone who has a creative imagination and knows how to dance.
Turn-Offs: Someone who is self-absorbed and/or terribly insecure."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"Is there one?"

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone
"No bragging allowed."

What was your worst date experience?
"Definitely don't want to throw anyone under the bus, that wouldn't be fair!"

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"Love is a battlefield."
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Name: Luis Ortiz
Age: 27, but I feel 18
Location: Chelsea
Job Title: Real Estate Agent
Sexual Preference: Women
Twitter: @luisdortiz
Instagram: @luisdortiz

What do you look for in a significant other?
"I look for a woman that has taken her time to get to know who she is before committing to someone. I like someone that’s beautiful, that can dance, that can smile at the simplest things of life, that does not play by the rules, and that is spontaneous. And, she has to know how to dance salsa."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Tartine in the West Village, I like to sit outside. But, at the end of the day, it’s not the spot, it’s the company. Whatever you do in the place that you are is what really counts."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I’m very very open. I’m very proud of who I am. There’s nothing I wouldn’t say."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"The fact that I don’t consider it a job. What I do, it happens to be part of my life. I take it with me at all times. People like to talk about art or sports, I like to talk about real estate. I look to be a mediator, someone that can orchestrate a deal; I love to be the person in the middle making things happen."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Me: Probably a suit, because I’m always in a suit. My brother even said he wanted to get me suit pajamas.
Her: When you have a girl who is real and confident, she will look amazing in whatever she wears. It’s not what she wears, but how she wears it."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-on: A girl that is truly passionate.
Turn-off: Not letting someone be themselves, always correcting people. If I’m with someone and someone tells me ‘Oh I don’t like that,’ that's not going to work."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"No one knows why they’re dating. They just do it. In NYC, people come here not to live, but to make something of themselves — if you came here to live, you’d go broke. And, while they’re doing that on their own, they have very little time for anything, because everyone has their own thing going on."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"For Valentine's Day with my ex-girlfriend, I told her we were going to watch this Oscar-nominated, independent short film on the LES. I made a film for her and I specifically casted someone that was very similar to her. She saw our relationship from a third-person point of view."

What was your worst date experience?
"In Colombia, I was on a date with this girl. We went to dinner, went out to dance, and she came back with me to my hotel. The doorman told us that they didn’t allow any guests, so I told my date I would just see her tomorrow. She started flipping out, and when I tried to grab her a cab, she ran away, started walking on the highway, and was being ridiculous. Then she threw a bottle of Corona at me, and the doorman said, ‘Welcome to Colombia.’"

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"I think that people have a perception of who they need to be in order to be liked by someone and that is, I believe, the reason that most relationships go south. You should embrace who you are at all times. I think anybody in the world is going to appreciate and fall in love with you. You can only be one version of yourself, and that’s original and fresh."
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Name: Roy Alpert
Age: 31
Location: Soho
Job Title: Hospitality Director, Freehand Hostels
Sexual Preference: Women
Twitter: @royalpert
Instagram: @royalpert

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Kindness, intelligence, humor, modesty, and family values."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Jack’s Wife Freda, Stella, and Hudson Clearwater."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I’m extremely passionate about what I do, I’m very close with my family, and I’m pretty good at basketball (for a Jewish boy)."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"Creating memorable experiences and bringing people together."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"The nature of my work is such that I never really feel like I’m working and also never not working. So, while it’s tough to say that I’m ever really outside of work, watching films is one of my favorite things to do to disconnect. I find them very relaxing and enjoyable, though I don’t get to go to the movies as often as I would like."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"I like to keep it casual, so usually a T-shirt and jeans, and the same goes for the girl. But, at the same time, I try to look like I’ve made an effort, and it’s nice to feel like she has, too."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-On: She’s comfortable in any situation. Turn-Off: Speaking negatively about others."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"If you’re in your 20s/30s and you’re living here, you're most likely focusing on building your career — which adds a layer of complexity to romantic relationships. Not only do you have to connect with someone mentally and physically, but your career paths, professional goals, and schedules also have to fit and complement each other. It’s rare when all of this comes together."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"On my first day of high school (at a new school where I didn’t know anyone), I noticed a kid getting bullied — he was getting hard-boiled eggs thrown at him. I stood in front of him and blocked the eggs from hitting him."

What was your worst date experience?
"Sometimes on my dates I feel like I’m reliving a Seinfeld episode. I recently went on a date with a woman who had a very thick accent. I literally could not understand one word she said the entire date."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"Timing is everything."
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Name: Sam Kaufman
Age: 26
Location: Fort Greene, Brooklyn
Job Title: Software Consultant
Sexual Preference: Women
Twitter: @samkaufman
Instagram: @skaufman

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Empathy for others, especially strangers. And, a small nose. Hopefully, our babies average out."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Ward III. Fantastic drinks and just quiet enough to have a conversation. Brooklyn Boulders is great, too. It’s fun, and the dating equivalent of a shirtless selfie. *Swipe left.*"

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"1. I’m not Jewish. Probably. There's a church in rural Hungary that knows for sure. So, that’s my spirit quest.
2. I will absolutely convince you to take off work to go to a strange country on a day's notice.
3. #TeamBloom."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"I get to work in any domain at almost any time, which is great because I’m a huge spaz. Just this week, I got to work with a climate justice nonprofit, do academic stuff with robots, and advise a private aviation company."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"Exploring New York, karaoke, and dancing — badly — but elaborate. Masochistic workouts are a close second."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Obscure pop-culturally referential T-shirt and blazer that we somehow got away with wearing at the office."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-On: Offering to pay. I won’t let you, but gender norms are boring.
Turn-Offs: Materialism. And, being way too into being comfortable."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"I am a straight white male in New York City, I have nothing to complain about."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"Oh, come on. I’m not that shameless."

What was your worst date experience?
"Getting stuck on the roof of a tall building overnight. In college, a friend and I had been traveling separately and both came back to California to find our apartments were no longer there — at least, not for us. So, we thought we'd be cool little punks and live for a bit in a building on campus. We went, at some point, to check out the roof, and managed to lock ourselves up there. In between nearly freezing to death, we stayed up talking all night, and it turned into one of the best relationships I’ve ever had. Wait, did you say worst? That might be the best. (Call me for the movie rights, Zach Braff.)"

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"It’s one word for a million different things. Comparing relationships gets you nowhere."
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Name: Brad Holtzman
Age: 28
Location: Stuyvesant Town
Job Title: Partner, Taquitoria
Sexual Preference: “All the ladies in the place with style and grace.”
Twitter: @foodski
Instagram: @bsholtzman

What do you look for in a significant other?
"A best friend."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Wine at 10 Bells followed by dinner at Barrio Chino; vodka pizza at Rubirosa then sundaes at Morgenstern’s; the Fat Cat."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"1. Family is #1.
2. I work…A LOT. While studying abroad in Florence, my host mother, Laura Franciolini, cooked dinner for me five nights a week for four months. I always loved food, but this experience uncovered my infatuation with both eating and cooking. Coming back to New York, I couldn’t stop perfecting her recipes, which lead me to this career. I wake up, breathe, and live for this business. My commitment to the success of our company translates to long hours and late nights. The majority of our business comes after midnight, which means my hours are pretty funky. On any given Saturday at 3:30 a.m., you can find me behind the register, rapping to Biggie, and feeding the good people."
3. I’m loyal."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"Feeding people makes me smile."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"I like to spend time with family and friends eating cheeseburgers, cooking bolognese, drinking wine and bourbon, laughing, roaming the city, and get into shenanigans. The inner child in me still loves visiting the Museum of Natural History, and I’m also looking for the right time to hit the Brooklyn Botanical Gardens. I dig live music in any of the 1,000-plus venues in the city. When possible, I like to support the Yankees, Giants, Rangers, Knicks, and Syracuse sports either on TV or in person."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Me: Jeans, a T-shirt, and fresh Nike Dunk SBs.
Her: Anything she feels confident in. That’s when women look the best."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: A sense of humor and silliness, passion, confidence, sweetness, loyalty, self-awareness, free spirit, and a live-to-eat kinda gal.
Turn-Offs: Eating restrictions, laziness, self-deception, clothes that don’t fit, low-talkers, bad crazy, height of 5'9" or higher."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"People now are so glued to their dating apps that they forget to open their eyes to someone in front of their face. And, overall noise. Loud bars and restaurants make it tough to have an intimate moment."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"Skipped out on a trip upstate to see my mom and best friends for the first time in months to make dinner for my sister going through a hard breakup. She’s my rock."

What was your worst date experience?
"I’m going back over a decade here, but years ago I was kickin’ it with a 'hippie chick.' And, when shit started to get real, I found out the hard way that she hadn’t shaved her a legs a day in her life. The unpleasant surprise was a deal breaker. Sorry, hippie chicks!"

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"In order to truly love someone else, you must love yourself for exactly who you are."
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Name: Todd Plummer
Age: 24
Location: Soho
Job Title: Freelance Fashion Writer & Law Student
Sexual Preference: Guys
Twitter: @toddkingston
Instagram: @toddkingston

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Someone who will be my best friend, most honest critic, biggest fan, and who will regularly let me raid their closet."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"When I go on a date, I prefer to go somewhere new that we can both discover together. I hate the idea of 'this place is so good for dates,' because for me, dating is about getting to know someone through a shared experience. So, let’s go to the market together then cook dinner at home; let’s go for a run in Central Park; let’s go to a wine tasting — let’s just enjoy each other’s company in a unique, sincere way."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"1. Despite being a fashion writer, I don’t consider myself particularly fashionable or interested in fashionable guys. Less Versace, more Vineyard Vines.
2. Despite having interviewed nearly every celebrity/tastemaker/socialite under the sun for work, my niece (Grae, 3) and nephew (Marley, 1) are the coolest people I know.
3. I am a hopeless, foolish, old-school romantic — a hand-holding, baking you a pie, taking weekend trips, buying you flowers, waking up in the middle of the night if you need me no matter what, ride or die, kind of romantic."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"I get to live the coolest double life! Law student by day, fashion reporter by night. I never in a million years thought I would be doing what I am doing, and it can be a lot to handle at times — but the people I meet and the friendships I have made make it all worth it."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"Well, when I am not hitting the books for school or hitting the pavement for work, I can usually be found napping, watching Netflix, ordering Seamless, or a combination of all three. I’ve gotten really into running in the past year because it helps clear my mind and keep me balanced, which is really important."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Just be yourself, and be comfortable. Nothing is sexier than a guy who is comfortable in his own skin, whether it’s jeans and a T-shirt or a three-piece suit."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Ambition, intelligence, warmth, and thoughtfulness. Guys who like sports. (Despite being from Boston, I know nothing about the major leagues, but will happily pretend I do if you need a game-watching buddy!)
Turn-Offs: Laziness, close-mindedness, and people who hold grudges."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"When people use, 'I’m busy' as an excuse. This is New York City: We are all busy. Making time to see someone is a gesture of good faith. If you’re not interested, just say so!"

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"While we were still together, I surprised an ex of mine with a fantastic weekend away at this bed and breakfast upstate, including a really lavish six-course wine-tasting dinner. But, doing nice things doesn’t always have to be a grand gesture. It’s about being the best you can be for someone every single day — cooking them breakfast, making time to snuggle on the couch, or simply asking how their day was. Just because."

What was your worst date experience?
"A guy I asked out to dinner made us get up and leave three separate restaurants because none of the menus had anything he wanted. He was picky — which I find annoying but was willing to deal with — until he kept talking about his exes at dinner. Big faux pas."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"True love is being with someone who brings out the best in you."
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Name: Ian Velardi
Age: 32
Location: Gramercy
Job Title: Fashion Designer
Sexual Preference: Girls

What do you look for in a significant other?
"People are way more complex than the sum of a few qualities. I try not to set parameters — you never know who you’re going to connect with. I think it’s the intangible things. If I meet a girl and I feel a good connection, I’ll pursue it. I do love good banter. Quick wit and sarcasm are always a plus. That being said…I’ve never been mad at long beautiful hair and a great smile."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"I like to sit at a bar. Face-to-face seems so formal. I like casual places with a good laid-back vibe…good music and good lighting are really important. I think a girl’s true colors come out over a burger and beer. Raoul’s and Lil' Frankie’s are some favorites.

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I can’t leave home without making my bed; I like breakfast for dinner; and if Love Actually is on TV, I pretty much stop everything and watch it in entirety."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"I’m pursuing exactly what I wanted to do as a little kid. That’s rare, and I feel very lucky. I love to wake up every day and work on creating new product."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"Most importantly, I like to spend time with friends and family. Keeping active is also really important to me. And, I love a new pile of magazines."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Comfort and confidence are the best things anyone can wear."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-On: Great personal style — not to be confused with fashion. I like when a girl knows who she is and owns it. You can’t buy that.
Turn-Off: Flip flops — I just don’t find them flattering."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"I can’t really think of any. There’s no shortage of girls or things to do here. No excuses."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"I try my best to be kind to everybody, every day. I think being kind is a way of living, not a singular act."

What was your worst date experience?
"I can’t say I have had any terrible experiences. I mean, I’ve been thrown up on, but that was at the end of a great night."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"It’s some powerful shit."
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Name: Justin Jones
Age: 25
Location: East Village
Job Title: Reporter
Sexual Preference: Gay
Twitter: @justandyjones
Instagram: @justandyjones

What do you look for in a significant other?
"First and foremost: confidence. I like a guy who isn’t afraid to take charge of a situation and knows what he wants (without being arrogant, of course). They also have to be able to take me outside of my comfort zone. Any guy that can make me feel comfortable while I’m making a complete ass of myself wins my heart."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"For drinks: Elsa, Grape & Grain, Pouring Ribbons, or Bar Sardine.
For dinner: The Smile, Miss Lily’s, Mermaid Inn, or Tartine."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I’m a self-proclaimed amateur chef (I’ve been known to cook large holiday meals for friends), I’ll try anything twice, and I hate sleeping in silence."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"Every day is different. I get to meet a lot of unique and interesting people while constantly learning."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"During the summer, I spend as much time outdoors as possible, whether it's going to the park or the beach, or just biking around the city. I’m a music junkie and an art lover, so I tend to go to a lot of concerts and art shows. (I collect concert tees and exhibition catalogues.)"
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"If the occasion allows, I like to keep it casual: Nice jeans and a basic T-shirt or button-down."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Confidence and a sexy smile.
Turn-Off: When someone has nothing more than 'I' and 'me' to offer to a conversation."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"There is a lot that can be said about dating in NYC, but, for me, it ultimately comes down to time. Between careers, friends, and personal time, no one really has any to waste, so people are a lot more hesitant about committing to a date they aren’t 100% sure about. First impressions really count."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"Niceness comes in different degrees, so that’s hard to say about myself. You’d have to ask the people I’m closest to."

What was your worst date experience?
"The date was great, but the venue wasn’t. It was a first date at Ninja in Tribeca. It seems like a good idea in theory, but it's not. It’s more of a choking hazard. There are literal ninjas jumping out at you while you eat."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"As terrifying as it is, you have to allow yourself to be open and vulnerable."
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Name: Austin Millz
Age: 25
Location: Harlem
Job Title: Music Producer/DJ
Sexual Preference: Female
Twitter: @AustinMillz
Instagram: @AustinMillz

What do you look for in a significant other?
"I look for a female that is trustworthy, willing to do new things, and loves to be different. A woman that is doing her own thing in her respective field. I want a feeling that we can take over the world together. Also, she has to know how to dance!"

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Carmine's and Ricardo's."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I’m a laid back person, I like to laugh, and I have moves like a young Michael Jackson."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"I get to travel, make and play music, and be creative. Also, I love meeting new people in different places."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"Reading and learning. I feel like someone should learn something new every day."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"For me, I’m usually comfortable, sleek, and cozy. For her, I prefer her to be comfortable as well — a nice T-shirt, tight jeans, and wedges is fine with me. (I also have this thing for sneaker wedges on a female.) It leaves more for the imagination. That’s an A+ in my book.

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Being supportive, cooking, and having her own personal sense of style.
Turn-Offs: Being negative and bad hygiene."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"There is a big misconception that dating can’t work in NYC because of the fast lifestyle and that that type of life is not conducive to successful relationships."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"Tell someone the truth when they weren’t ready to hear it. Honesty gets you a long way."

What was your worst date experience?
"Ahh, I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"Nothing is promised, so cherish the moments with your loved ones."
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Name: Brook Klausing
Age: 36
Location: Brooklyn
Job Title: Landscape Designer/Model
Sexual Preference: Women
Twitter: @brooklandscape
Instagram: @brooklandscape

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Someone who is authentic, emotionally mature, confident, reasonable, honest, nurturing, grounded, playful, and adorable. I want to be with someone who gets excited to be around me."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"When you're in good company, you could be anywhere and have a good time. Without sounding cheesy, the best date could be in my garden or living room, ordering takeout."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I'm willing to take on responsibility, but never want to grow up; I'm always open for improvement; and good communication keeps me involved."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"I get to make it up as I go. My career and company can change with me. Nothing is set in stone, and I'm not afraid to re-route if it's not working or fulfilling. Clients hire me to make beautiful spaces for them, and I like to make things."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"Hang out with my friends or family in beautiful places."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"For me, no fuss casual cool. For a girl, come as you are. If you're confident and own it, I'm going to think you're rad, and we'll get along."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs? "Turn-Ons: Confidence, a smile, and big kind eyes.
Turn-Offs: Entitlement, self-obsessed, and unaware."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"There are a lot of people, and its hard to tell who's real. It's easy to dumb down our expectations for others and get distracted. We lose hope that a connection can be authentic and forget that enthusiasm requires effort. Sadly, it can become all too easy not to care."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"Its kind of cheesy, but when I first moved to the city, I fell in love with a girl born and raised in Brooklyn. On one of our early dates, we went to the Bronx Zoo and ended up getting one of those flattened souvenir pennies. While going home, she joked about how they would make nice earrings. So, the next day I took the train back up to the zoo and purchased a second penny. I went home and made them into a set of earrings for her birthday two days later."

What was your worst date experience?
"How about the non-date experience I had last night? I was really excited about taking this girl to see The Royal Tenenbaums in Central Park. After preparing an amazing picnic, she texted me to cancel as I was on my way to pick her up. It's disheartening when things don't work out, or if someone's style of communication is different than yours. I still made it up to the park and enjoyed the movie by myself, but the blanket, the bottle of wine, and the dinner never left my car. I have to work on managing my expectations of others, but, in the the end, I felt good about my role in the non-date knowing I still cared enough to plan and pack for two."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"It's never too late. You must be willing to accept love for it to grow."
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Name: Alex Gobo
Age: 29
Location: Midtown East
Job Title: Senior PR Manager, Salvatore Ferragamo
Sexual Preference: Male
Twitter: @alexgobo
Instagram: @alexgobo

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Be successful in life. And, when I say successful, I don’t mean financially. Success is confidence, happiness, and excitement for what you do, the company you keep, and the family you love. Don’t let the past or the cards you’ve been dealt control your life."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"A good date is creative, not a hot spot. Anything but dinner…let’s do something and have fun. We’ll get to know one another better over a game of mini-golf than a cocktail. That being said, if dinner is in the cards…you pick. It’ll tell me more about you to see where you choose (don’t try too hard, life is about the simple things) and also how you treat the waiter."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I’m incredibly nostalgic, especially for a time before I was born. I romanticize the past through classic television, literature, and family photos. I’m a Gemini. Sometimes, I’m on and sometimes I’m off — so be prepared for Netflix nights in and late-night group dinners. Superheroes are everything. If I had super powers, I would be one. But, I live vicariously through comic books. Sometimes, we need to leave the planet to be brought back down to Earth. Make sense? "

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"The team. I work with incredibly talented and dedicated individuals that together can make anything happen. We all learn from one another in different regards, and life is about learning."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"I’m going to start archery lessons soon (thanks for the gift, little brother) and hoping to take up sailing with my friend Amelia in the fall. Any chance I can get at being outdoors or outside of the city is a given. Reading is key. Usually in the form of a comic book (I have over 6,000) or an Agatha Christie novel."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"My out-of-office uniform is a crew-neck T-shirt tucked into a pair of slacks and white sneakers or moss-green, suede tassel loafers (both Ferragamo, of course). I always wear the vintage watch my father gave me. You? Keep it simple and be yourself, as long as you feel comfortable."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Somebody who is inherently genuine and real and wants to build an interesting life and family. Be able to communicate. You can throw crazy at me, just tell me. I’ll probably accept it if you’re a good egg.
Turn-Off: Being part of a scene or living for 'events.' Let’s keep it real."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"There’s always something 'better.' Guess what…there isn’t. Find somebody that’s best for you, not for your social media fans."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"Let’s flip this question. One time, I fell down cellar stairs and cracked my head open after a robbery in my old apartment building (bad day, right?). A stranger helped me up and wrapped my head in his fleece to stop the bleeding. The ambulance came, and he was off. If you’re reading this…thank you. The city is filled with incredibly good people that do nice things every day."

What was your worst date experience?
"I’ve never had a bad date per se. Dates are just an experiment to see if people click. If you realize you don’t click with somebody, that’s not necessarily a bad date. You just learned what you needed to about that person."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"There are many forms of love. Don’t try to predetermine how yours will come to you."
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Name: Alex Vidoli
Age: 27
Location: Lower East Side
Job Title: Project Manager
Sexual Preference: Guys
Instagram: @avidoli

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Someone who is cool, calm, and collected with a little bit of crazy. A good crazy, though."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
I love a mellow, dimly lit place with a good menu and great drinks. Dudley’s on the LES comes to mind."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I’m not a big fan of winter, I don’t take myself too seriously, and I love a good disco ball!"

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"A lot of times it doesn’t feel like a job."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"I love a good bike ride on a nice day followed by a long dinner and drinks with great friends."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Whatever we both feel most comfortable in."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: A good sense of humor and humility.
Turn-Off: I don’t like people who are too into themselves."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"The grass is always greener on the other side."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"I’d rather not say."

What was your worst date experience?
"Does it count if you thought it was a date?"

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"It can be the best and the worst thing."
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Name: Rajib Guha
Age: 33
Location: Lincoln Square
Job Title: Strategy Consultant
Sexual Preference: Men

What do you look for in a significant other?
"An inquiring mind, a humble nature, a multiculti mindset, and a sense of adventure. Being gay is always a plus. Being a little off-kilter is rarely a minus."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"I think dates are a great opportunity to explore somewhere neither person has previously been — say, a new cocktail bar, ramen joint, or that gallery you’ve always been meaning to visit but couldn’t be bothered. If the date turns out to be meh, at least we both got to experience something fresh."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I love maps, I dig a good debate or argument, and I’m often running a few minutes late."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"I learn something new every day."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"I like the usual city things, but I also like to skip town for weeks or months at a time to indulge my enduring wanderlust. I’ve explored more than my fair share of the globe, yet still get excited to experience new places and cultures whenever I can…either on my own or with friends and loved ones."
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What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Wit, depth, strong hands, and genuine laughter.
Turn-Offs: Narrow-mindedness, overconfidence, and materialism."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"Frankly, a lot of folks have unreasonably high expectations of potential partners or even friends. We’re all a bit flawed, which is a good thing to accept in ourselves and others as we go about meeting new people."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"For years, I worked as a counselor for talented kids from struggling communities who might not otherwise go to college, or the right college, because the process of researching, applying, and getting funding is so needlessly complicated. It’s always a thrill to hear from former students that they just finished their degree, started a dream job, or got into grad school; it reaffirms how much they stood to benefit from a little help at a pivotal moment in their lives."

What was your worst date experience?
"Realizing the other person was not familiar with (or amenable to) the concept of family-style dining, even at a Chinese restaurant. Sharing is caring, people."
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Name: Chris Williams
Age: 27
Location: Greenpoint, Brooklyn
Job Title: Co-Owner/Surfboard Shaper, Union Surfboards
Sexual Preference: Women
Instagram: @unionsurfboards

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Laughter. Effortless laughter. It’s really easy to stay excited about people like that, and it tells me a lot about who they are. She must have a hobbie, something to lean everything in their life up against. Watching Netflix or day-drinking all the time isn’t a way to occupy yourself, and it makes me anxious. She must be smart, because I want to learn things that I can’t read about on the Internet, and being challenged keeps me engaged. I can’t always drive the conversation. Spontaneous and adventurous to break up the routine. Realness, because it’s tiring to be around someone whose dishonest with themselves."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Dinner outdoors at Five Leaves in Greenpoint. The food’s amazing, and it’s just steps from my door. Then drinks on the rooftop at Wythe Hotel. If there’s a better view of the New York skyline, I haven’t found it."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"I finished 9th in Fantasy Surfer last year, I have a fake Aussie accent that I’ve lost control over, and I’m always going to call you before I resort to texting. It’s much easier."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"I love bringing people’s ideas to life and getting them excited, but the fact that going surfing is an honest part of doing my job trumps everything."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"I sailed in high school and college. If I still had access to a boat, it’d be that. Instead, I play a lot of tennis at McCarren Park and golf on the weekends."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"My most comfortable button-down and pants. They can’t lose with a tight pair of blue jeans and a white tank."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Athletic, independent, and enthusiastic.
Turn-Offs: Overly insecure or lacking of interests."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"Deciding where to eat dinner."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"Rubbing sunscreen on my friend’s back. Definitely."

What was your worst date experience?
"My high school prom date didn’t want to dance. That was pretty lame."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"It’s extraordinarily rare. Don’t bother looking for it, it’ll find you."
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Name: Jeffrey Scotti Schroeder
Age: 29
Location: Greenpoint, Brooklyn
Job Title: Co-owner, Union Surfboards
Sexual Preference: Women
Instagram: @dontcallmeanerd

What do you look for in a significant other?
"A beach bod is obviously a major plus, but outside of that I need someone who is funny, confident, and intellectually stimulating to maintain my interest. I’m not looking for an Aristotle or a Plato. Just say something of substance maybe once a week or so, k?"

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"For the first date, if she lives in Manhattan, we’re going to a dive bar on the LES to start and then see where the night takes us. If she lives in Brooklyn, I'd pick her up in my El Camino, listen to some Fleetwood, and cruise to No Name, Pearl’s, Commodore, or pretty much anywhere that serves Piña Coladas. If we make it through the first date without completely hating each other, on date two I’ll take her out for dinner."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"1. I’m 'bout that Piña lifestyle.
2. I'm too busy for games.
3. I don’t mind you being the big spoon from time to time (just close your eyes and pretend you’re riding on the back of my motorcycle while you spoon me. It’ll make you feel much better about the whole situation)."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"Being my own boss."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"No bad days. Not a one. Each day presents a new opportunity to live, explore, get into trouble. Surfing, skateboarding, art shows, concerts, da beach boi (shout out to Rippers)."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"No heroics here, just the same thing I always wear: Jeans, a white shirt, and Chucks. If I’m feeling especially tropical, I’ll throw you a curve ball and hit you with a beautiful and luxurious Hawaiian shirt. For her, the best outfit is anything she feels sexy and confident in (but tight black jeans are always a good start). If she can rock a nice floral dress while riding a bike, we’re in business."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: That je ne sais quoi, humor, confidence, sexuality, sense of style, ambition, freckles, an endearing flaw (like a snaggletooth, for example), tan lines, and a familiarity with '90s hip-hop.
Turn-Offs: Basic-ness, close-mindedness, snobby-ness, rudeness, and laziness."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"No real complaints here."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"Not a huge fan of this question, as it would be nearly impossible to not come off as boastful. But, rest assured, I’m a very giving person and find it gratifying doing nice things for others. (References available upon request.)"

What was your worst date experience?
"I was seeing a very successful Upper East Side woman who loved to wine and dine me. To reciprocate, I had to come up with a unique date that was memorable and heartfelt, since taking her to a fancy restaurant just wouldn’t do. I decided to take her on a sizzurp date. We concocted that 'lean,' that 'purple drank,' while listening to some trap music then went to a bar, played skee ball, made fun of people, ate nachos, and drank macro brews in abundance. Wait you said 'worst' date? That was one of my best. Haven’t had many bad date experiences."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"The thing is, love is blind. It will take over your mind. What you think is love, is truly not. You need to elevate and find."
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Name: Eduardo Ramos
Age: 30
Location: West New York
Job Title: Actor/Writer/Hip-Hop MC/Model
Sexual Preference: Female
Twitter: @nueves
Instagram: @nueves

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Inspiration, rationality, and fitness."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"Cafecito, Tarallucci e Vino, Soho House, and Baker and Co."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"1. I tend to run 10 to 15 minutes late. It's certainly improving but its a genetic predisposition of being Latin.
2. I'm currently living with my abuela, which may get me kicked off this list. For the record, she's a wonderful roommate. 3. I am a recovering cookie slut. I have recently found the will power to stop myself from smashing all cookies in sight and settle for two, but it is an everyday struggle."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"The commonality of acting, music, and fashion that I love is the bond of creation. It's several different people with different objectives working together for the same common goal. Whether creating a scene, song, performance, or an image, it takes a team of hard-working, talented individuals to make it happen. The act of collaboratively creating whether it's for profit, art, or both is a special thing.

"Also, I love having the variable of unexpected travel to unexpected locations as a part of my career. Traveling has been such an important aspect of my life and personal growth, and I hope it stays that way. After you are done checking out all the 'gents in this story, you can also check out my tale about traveling to New Zealand, right here on Refinery29.

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"Being by the ocean — I'm all about surfing and fishing. Backyard/rooftop BBQs (I have grill skills, too). Free styling (I love hip-hop so much, if the vibe is right I'll freestyle until my brain bank is bust). And, lacrosse (whether coaching or playing, it's my favorite sport)."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Bathing suits. Having personal style is such a plus. Do you, and I'll work with it. There's also a good chance I will be wearing at least one article of clothing by Michael Bastian. Dress to impress, MB cloaks it best."

What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Movement and rhythm, knowing more than one language, and fitness.
Turn-Offs: Being smelly and criticizing others."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"It is a very career-driven society, so disconnecting from that to embrace a connection can be hard to do."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"I'd rather not share on public forum."

What was your worst date experience?
"A Saturday early evening meet up with a lawyer who was very drunk. She kept referring to what she was doing before we met up, as 'drunk brunch,' which I learned meant clubbing at Lavo all afternoon. Hearing half-coherent stories about earlier that day was entertaining, until she pulled out two phones and started double-texting at the bar. I told her she should invite some friends to meet up, and once I got confirmation that someone was coming, I walked out of the bar and hopped the first cab I saw."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"Embrace it in your life as much as possible."
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Name: Ryan Thornton
Age: 24
Location: Manhattan
Job Title: Digital Strategist/Singer
Sexual Preference: Straight
Twitter: @RyanJae
Instagram: @Ryan_Jae

What do you look for in a significant other?
"Someone funny, sweet, outgoing, ambitious, smart, and down to earth. Someone that brings the best out of me."

What are your favorite NYC date spots?
"I'm new to town, but once I get my bearings, I’d imagine they will be places with good food, a chill atmosphere, and live entertainment."

What are three things a potential significant other should know about you?
"1. I’m a Southern gentleman.
2. I’m very laid back.
3. I will sing to you."

What’s your favorite thing about your job?
"Its fast pace and the diverse nature of work."

What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
"Anything involving music (live shows, recording music, performing, listening to, etc.), traveling, and good conversation in any setting."
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Name your favorite first date outfit (for both you and your partner).
"Nothing fancy, just casual — something stylish, but not over the top."

What are your biggest turn-on/offs?
"Turn-Ons: Intellect, sense of humor, and humility.
Turn-Offs: Drama and passive aggression."

What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
"Sifting through eight million people to find someone you’re on the same page with."

What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
"Just being there for people in my life — whether it was a loan, a place to stay, or being available to listen when they needed it."

What was your worst date experience?
"I haven’t had too many bad experiences. In general, I would say having to constantly keep the conversation going is exhausting and boring. There was also one time a female friend of mine decided to crash a date I was on, which was weird. I thanked her later, though."

What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
"You can’t force that kind of thing. That connection is either there or it’s not."
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