If you’re dealing with a toxic work relationship (and still trying to show up in the morning and be productive), we know the struggles. Ahead, 10 women share their worst boss stories — and how they got over the drama.
I Learned To Move On For My Own Mental Health
I Found a New Job
I Was Young and Stayed With A Toxic Boss For Longer Than I Should Have
"Eventually, I started looking for a new job because I needed to get out. The boss who yelled at me ended up running the company into the ground, and they went out of business about a year after I left."
I Can Look Back (On Some of It) and Laugh
"I worked at a small advertising agency, and one of the partners threw temper tantrums like a toddler! I definitely had a FedEx box thrown at my head as I was running into the elevator. He was also constantly talking to my breasts. I remember a time when the fax machine wasn't working (legitimately broken), and I was trying to fix it. He came over and asked, 'Well, did you plug it in, sweetheart?' So condescending. I didn’t stay at that job for more than two years — and was relieved to leave. Thankfully, I can look back on it (well some of it, at least) and laugh now."
I Stuck it Out, and He Left
I Found a Work Environment That’s More Family-Friendly
I Cooled Down and Then Approached Her
Her Lack of Professionalism Kicked Me Into Job-Search Mode
"In my last job, my boss was constantly crossing the line between personal and professional. She’d tell me about flirting with her personal trainer and how she used to sleep with people quickly. She thought relationships had a five-year shelf life and then they needed to come to an end. The final straw came when she gave me advice on how to land a boyfriend. She told me every girl should follow three rules to get a guy: always do her hair, wear clothes that fit, and always let him believe he’s in control sexually.
"I went to HR with my complaints, and nothing ever came of it, although ultimately it pushed my search for a new job into high gear."
I Figured Out How to Listen to My Instinct
"I stayed with that job for a long time (a lot longer than I should have — I needed the money). The funny thing is, I had a sense that there was something off with her when I was interviewing for the position — but ignored my gut feeling. When I started looking for new jobs, I decided I only wanted to work for someone who seemed like a good person. Of course, it’s always tough to tell for certain who is going to be a jerk, but I’ve learned my instinct is pretty strong, and sometimes I really need to listen to it."
He Made Things Super Awkward
— Elizabeth, 34