10 Things That Are Arguably Better Than Sex

Good sex is hard to beat. It can be both orgasmic and intimate, and leave you feeling fulfilled both physically and emotionally. But we'll admit it: Sometimes, there are things that can be better than sex, even the best sex.
And there's no shame in saying so — being sex-positive doesn't mean that the only thing you're interested in is making love. Sometimes, you're so tired after a long day of work that getting a proper foot rub from your partner or taking a bath is more appealing than sex. Or perhaps pizza would be tough to turn down if you were faced with choosing between getting it on and a slice of cheesy, gooey deliciousness. (But seriously, what monster would make you choose?)
Everyone, and every situation, is different. So we asked the R29 community what they sometimes consider more tempting than sexy time. Here are 10 things that are arguably better than sex.
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"It’s one of those things that gives me a mouthgasm more than any vaginal orgasm ever could. It's just the most delicious dessert. Although I honestly love all flavors, there's really nothing more amazing than classic, New York-style cheesecake with strawberry. Although I'd love to celebrate a good boink with a piece of cheesecake, I might have to choose the cake over the sex for multiple reasons: My boyfriend and I will always be equally satisfied with cheesecake. And it leaves me feeling majestic and fulfilled all night long."
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"That first sip of water in the middle of the night when you wake up really thirsty after a night of drinking. You're so thirsty that the water tastes fantastic. It's better than sex, because you get to go to sleep after without making anyone mad."
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"Have you ever felt more warmth in your soul than when you're snuggling a tiny baby puppy? They are cute, warm, and fluffy, and they love you so much."
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"They've never let me down. I've regretted sex; I've never regretted dumplings."
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A Head Massage

"Most of the time, nothing [is better than sex]. But sometimes, I love it when we're just laying next to each other and [my partner] plays with my hair and rubs my scalp until I fall asleep. It makes me feel comforted and cared for, while still being incredibly intimate. It can be better than sex because, sometimes, sex can feel a bit disconnected, especially if I'm in my own head after a long day. The act of laying next to someone and rubbing their scalp can be majorly intimate and sexy. I do it to partners when I want them to feel relaxed and cared for. Having it done to me gives me similar feelings. It signals that my needs are being put first."
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"I love the feeling of the free fall. It’s an incredible sensation, and you don't do it as often as you have sex."
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Making Out

"Sometimes, I’d rather just make out than have sex. I don't know when kissing and touching became lame, but I want to bring them back. Because we can always have sex later!"
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Fancy Dinners

"I’d rather have a delicious meal in a beautiful restaurant than sex. Like sex, eating food fulfills a very basic human need. It involves many different senses; it involves anticipation. It can be highly pleasurable and comforting. It can make you feel marvelously satisfied, biologically and otherwise. It’s also easier to attain and can happen in public."
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A Great Poop

"A great poop is sweet relief. Sex is pleasure beyond the norm. A great poop can return you from the depths of despair to the plane of pleasant, and as always, it's more about the journey than the destination."
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A Private Jet

"I’d rather have a private jet than sex, so I can travel the world and go on adventures, because I can please myself."