What Being Asexual Really Looks Like

Photo: Courtesy of @serina_tirrel.
At its most basic definition, an asexual person is someone who doesn't experience sexual attraction to other people. But, as asexual artist Kat Flores wrote on their blog, asexuality — like any other sexuality — is more complicated than that.
Asexuality is a spectrum, and while some people fit into that basic definition and feel no sexual attraction at all, others do feel some sexual attraction or feel sexual attraction only in specific circumstances. Often, those people identify as gray ace or demisexual, which means they fall somewhere along the line between totally asexual and totally allosexual (which is the term for those of us who aren't asexual at all).
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As Flores writes, asexual people can also be aromantic (meaning they also don't experience romantic attraction), or they can form romantic connections. They can be transgender or non-binary or any of a number of other gender identities. They can be gay or lesbian or bisexual or pansexual or any other sexuality in their romantic, aesthetic, and sometimes even sexual attractions.
One thing an asexual person definitely isn't, is broken, Flores wrote. It's a common feeling for many asexual people as they figure out their identity, and also used to be what doctors and other medical professionals thought. Asexuality was still classified as a medical disorder, in fact, until 2013.
"My hope is that if we share our experiences, more people will see us and recognize asexuality as a valid identity," Flores wrote.
They posted their comic on asexuality for Asexual Awareness Week, which started Sunday, October 22 and lasts until this coming Saturday. It's a week not only for those of us who aren't asexual to educate ourselves about this lesser known sexuality, but also for asexual people to celebrate themselves and their community.
As should be clear from Flores' words, asexuality can't be boiled down to a single experience, and it definitely doesn't look just one way.
Read on to see how 25 asexual people are celebrating their identity this week.
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7 of 25

#asexualawarenessweek ♠️

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8 of 25

such a nice day to be #ace on ♠️💜 #aceeveryday #asexualawarenessweek #asexualpride

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9 of 25

it's ace awareness week boys 💜💟🖤 -- #me #asexualpride #asexualawarenessweek

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12 of 25

#asexualawarenessweek from your favourite 🌸 #ace #asexual

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17 of 25

Yesterday was the beginning of asexual awareness week! So be aware. We can be anywhere...

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22 of 25

this is your local ace kid reminding you that asexual people exist & are valid!! happy #asexualawarenessweek 💜

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24 of 25

Is this as #ace as I can get? 😁♠️💜♠️💜

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25 of 25

Today's the start of Asexual Awareness Week! #asexualawarenessweek #asexual #ihaveanaceupmysleeve #plsbekind

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