Being 'bitchy' because I'm assertive.
Being considered an angry black woman.
As a young and small Chinese-Canadian woman, I come up against a number of stereotypes.
People assume we're all uneducated, gang-associating, non-English speakers who thrive off free government handouts.
My mom is from Mexico, but she married my dad, and so we were raised here in the states. However, my dad passed away when I was four, which meant my mom had to raise us on her own. She had to navigate the complicated world of finding a job while raising kids as a single mom in a land that was mostly foreign to her, all while being a non-native English language speaker. She worked hard every day from morning till evening to provide us with the most basic necessities and to pay the bills.
Her example of hard work is something that has stuck with me since I was little. I also remember her studying day and night to be able to pass the naturalization exam so she could become a U.S. citizen. She always pressed upon us the importance of abiding the laws and being grateful to live in a state where our freedoms were protected." — Kayleen, 22
I'm constantly stereotyped as the nagging bitch.
I am not always strong.
I want to relish my emotions as they come and not have to censor/regulate them in fear of how other people will interpret them and hold it in, so it ends up with bitterness and passive aggressiveness. I want to acknowledge and be able to feel whatever and be mad or have moments when I am feeling anxious and not have to keep a pokerface at all times. In doing so, it humanizes this ideal that Black women have super bionic strength because of the plights we go through and still we rise.
I am not always strong, like many other people I am strong when I have to be and I want the idea of being a strong woman to be separate from what life throws at us." — Leonie, 21
I try to rebel by [being] open and honest with my sexuality with everyone.
I feel like I have to rebel against that stereotype that my height makes me less of a force to reckon with.
I feel like I have to rebel against that stereotype that my height and my 'look' makes me less of a force to reckon with. I pride myself on speaking up for myself, being a strong-minded young woman, and not allowing for my values to weaken, so when I get called cute it feels like other people don't see me that way." — Natalie, 22
The constant assumptions — from straight and queer people alike — run the gamut.
A close friend actually just recently referred to one of my epic, year-long relationships with a woman as my 'lesbian experimental person.' LIKE, WHAT??? WHICH PERSON?? WE ARE IN OUR THIRTIES, CAN WE BE DONE WITH THIS. Honestly I don't think I've gotten any better at dealing with it over the years; I seem to alternate between extremes — either shutting up and not mentioning my sexuality, or awkwardly re-coming-out an excessive number of times like, 'OH, THAT REMINDS ME OF THIS WOMAN I USED TO DATE...'" — Amelia, 32
Being a bad driver because I’m Asian.
That bisexuals are unfaithful and 'can’t choose' between genders and are 'greedy.'