Wait, what is that?
Metro UK writer Ellen Scott says, “A victim of stashing is hidden from every other part of the stasher’s life. Why? Because that way, they’re able to pretend that they’re not really dating the person they’re stashing." How will I know if I’m being stashed?
If you go on a bunch of dates and hang out one-on-one with that special someone, but they never post about you on social media or introduce you to their friends or family, then they might be stashing you. Okay, but what if we only just started dating?
It’s totally normal to focus on each other in the beginning, but as time goes on you may start to notice red flags. Are his parents in town but “too busy” to meet you? Does she only post about where she’s at and not who she’s with (you)? Don’t panic yet...
Being stashed may leave you thinking your boo is dating other people behind your back, which is why it’s totally chill to ask them about it. Say something like, “I’d love to hang with you and your friends,” and see how they respond. Think of it as the new “what are we” talk.
You won’t believe what they had to say
ME: Where did our relationship go wrong? HIM: “After about a month, I was still not totally sure what I wanted, so I tried to phase — if that word even makes sense — I tried to phase us back into being just friends again.”
“I didn't ghost you...I remember you being upset that one time, and you were saying something like, ‘Why don't you want me to be your girlfriend?’ And after that interaction, I didn’t talk to you for a while.”
“I was immature and unable to articulate my own feelings. And that is kind of the point of why ghosting sucks. Not my inability to communicate, but rather that there were emotions involved.”
“Well, yes and no. When I did realize that I had ghosted you, I genuinely felt like you probably didn’t care. That made it feel okay.”
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