How Feng Shui Can Improve Your Sex Life

Photographed by Anna Alexis Basile.
From sex games to sex furniture, there are plenty of things you can add to your bedroom to spice things up a bit. But, if you're not careful, added clutter can have the opposite effect on your sex life. At least, that's what feng shui expert and consultant Janice Sugita suggests. We spoke with Sugita to get the low down on how even basic changes in bedroom decor can drastically change your sex life for the better.

If you've never tested the waters of feng shui before, don't stress. This ancient Chinese art is used in interior design to foster positive, healing energy (known as qi) in a given space. Practitioners pay particular attention to a room's lighting, its tidiness, and how the furniture is arranged in it. All of these factors can either improve or detract from the room's qi.

"The principles of traditional feng shui are basic principles of modern comfort," Sugita says. "One should feel comfortable both physically and mentally."

Living by the basic principles of feng shui means seeking a less stressful, more balanced life. If you ask us, that already sounds like a recipe for better sex.

Click through for seven simple changes you can make to you bedroom to improve your sex life.
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Photographed by Mindy Best.
Keep things clean and uncluttered.

This should be a rule for any room in your home, but Sugita says it's especially important in the room where you sleep — and have sex: "Think of the classic romantic getaway hotel room. The mood is already set when you enter your room and see a turned down bed."

In other words, keeping things tidy in your bedroom will make it seem like a special place, where you can completely unwind after a long day.
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Photographed by Amelia Alpaugh.
Stick with neutral colors.

"Lots of bright colors or prints on the walls and bedding is not calming," Sugita says. Instead, keep your color palette neutral and change your linens often so the bed always looks crisp.

This principle extends to your choice of lighting, too. Sugita says a room designed for romance will have pleasant lighting (read: nothing too harsh) and plenty of natural light coming in from the windows.
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hotographed by Winnie Au.
Simplify your decor.

This photo is a fantastic example of what not to do. "Avoid artwork that is too intense, dead plants or animals on walls, too many photographs, and anything controversial or political," Sugita says.

Don't feel like you need to throw out anything on your walls or make your bedroom totally impersonal. Just remember, clutter can block the natural flow of energy through a room, and too many decorations absolutely count as clutter.
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Photographed by Erica Gannett.
Embrace a little luxury.

Think back to that fancy hotel room: Like it or not, the luxurious accoutrements help make it feel like a romantic getaway. Sugita recommends using high thread count sheets on your bed and even adding a faux fur throw — anything that will add a degree of refinement to your bedroom.
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Photographed by Winnie Au.
Watch out where you put the bed.

This tip will require the most heavy lifting — literally.

Sugita says to avoid placing your bed under a window or at an angle. The best placement is against a solid wall, away from anything in the room that can "divide" the bed in half, so to speak. This could mean the wall panels in the photo here (since the bed is placed directly between them) or any ceiling beams or soffits right above the bed.
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Photographed by Anna Alexis Basile.
Lose the candles.

This may come as a surprise, but candles are not necessarily a key ingredient to romance, even if they contribute to some sensuous mood lighting. Sugita says that bringing fire into a bedroom can increase the negative energy in the room overall.

Water, by contrast, "increases creativity, fame, and personal attraction," says Sugita. Consider replacing your sexy candles with a soothing indoor fountain.
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Photographed by Rockie Nolan.
Limit distractions.

Sugita says the simplest way to make your bedroom more welcoming is to get rid of anything that doesn't place an emphasis on sleep or sex. Yes, this means your phone, computer, tablet, TV, and any other screen that could pull your attention away from your lover. But it doesn't end there: Sugita says exercise machines or equipment or pet supplies need to go, too.

For the record, we heartily endorse this tip, even if you're not trying to improve your sex life. Limiting screen time will save you many a sleepless night.
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