The Secret To Creating A Healthy Digital Life Might Surprise You

Illustrated by Mallory Heyer.
By Alden Wicker

You might be feeling like your digital life is creeping too far into your real life, because, well, it's 2015. Maybe it’s a vague feeling of disconnection, the stress of managing an inbox, or the sharp guilt when your significant other gets upset that you were scrolling through Instagram while he or she was talking. Again.

“This is a boundary issue,” says Katherine Schafler, a licensed psychotherapist with a private practice in New York City that caters to highly driven and perfectionist women in their 20s and 30s. “There are no healthy relationships without boundaries. So to have a healthy relationship with digital media, you have to have boundaries, too.

In a way, they’re meaningful habits, because they’re all about connection. The problem ends up being really shallow and endless.” She continued to say that being addicted to your social media feed can lead to fights with your partner, get in the way of your other goals, like getting to the gym on time or sending out your résumé, and can lead to feelings of jealousy as you watch someone else climb the social or professional ladder, in addition to other things.

So how do you have a healthy relationship with the digital world? Well, you don’t need to get yourself a cabin by Walden Pond. Hey, you have a life and a personal brand to maintain. Schafler gave us her tips, specially crafted for the power players among us.

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