How To Get Exactly What You Want


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“Miracles are natural. When they do not occur, something has gone wrong.” — A Course in Miracles
Manifestation can be a tricky subject. It can sound like a hoax, rather new agey, and somewhat confusing. For example, why on earth do things that you really don’t want show up in life? And, if you are ‘creating’ aspects of your life, why would you create something unwanted? Truth is, after much practice and research on the topic, I’ve learned there is quite a clear process to allowing the manifestation of what you want to show up in your life. Really, to get what you want is an inside job.
First, there are some general principles to explain how things work:
— You are the creator of your world and in charge of what you experience. I know this is a big statement, but if you align with it then you can take complete power over your life and manifest what's next. If you think things happen to you, without you playing an integral part, manifestation will still happen but not with you in awareness of it. It's the difference between getting into a car and knowing where you're going and what route you'll take and getting into a car and just winging it. I’d prefer one with a GPS.
— All the thoughts you think are like planning for a future event. So if you are worrying, you are planning; if you are joyful, you are planning. Pay attention to your thoughts. If any part of your life is not working, one of your beliefs in that area needs to be changed. Start to clean up your thinking (and the words you use), knowing your thoughts are your future.
— The universe supports you in all ways. Sometimes it may not be as you envisioned it, but you have to trust that the universe is giving you what you need at that time. It could be for growth, for a change in perspective, and possibly not exactly what you had planned, but you have to trust there is a support system in place.
If you are in basic agreement with these universal laws, you are ready to start manifesting what you want. Here’s how:
1. Get clear about what you want. For example, stating “I want a new apartment” is not clear enough. The universe will show you tons of options for moving, so you need to get specific. For example, decide on your budget and priorities (space, light, elevator, etc.) to paint a clearer picture of what you are looking for. Envision it, write it down, or create a vision board — but get specific about what it is. Make your decision, and stick to it.
2. Do the work. Staying with the apartment example, you still need to call brokers, look online, know what neighborhoods you like. Start taking action toward what you want and showing the universe that you’re ready.
3. Get rid of disbelief. Don’t say “I’ll never find the right place, or there is nothing out there I can afford.” Instead, feel and know that it's coming. If you groan through the process, and you don’t believe in the results then they won’t come. Stay open and trust that the universe will bring them to you, allow it to cocreate with you. Don’t let the outside world affect your internal condition. Instead, let the internal support the external. For example, one of the best things you can do is feel abundant, even if your world isn’t yet showing that.
When you’re allowing life to come in, it flows. Things happen and click. Synchronicity happens. This is how life should be, we are the ones that get in the way. Allow and trust life, and by and by life will destroy all inhibitions. Energy will start to flow in all those parts it has been prevented.
Here's one simple meditation you can do that allows life to flow more easily: Inhale to receive all that you desire, and exhale to release all that does not serve you. You can do this while simply walking down the street.
Happy manifesting!
We’re going to give you a very powerful statement: Everything that you will someday live, in terms of life experience — and by someday, we mean as soon as right now, tomorrow, the next day, or someday — anything that you will someday live, you have first imagined. Because nothing will manifest in your experience without the imagination process happening first.” — Abraham Hicks
Photo: By Alison Scarpulla, Courtesy of Eyla. This post was authored by Courtney Somer.

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