29 Dates

How To Turn Your Dating App Match Into A Date

by Erika W. Smith

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Dating Stories

I Went To 5 Singles Events & It Gave Me Hope

Tanyel Mustafa

Mar 13, 2025

Dating Advice

How A Babymoon Restored My Sanity (And My Relationship Too!)

Danielle Cadet

Nov 14, 2024

Unbothered

I’m An African Eldest Daughter — Is This Why I’m A “Giver” In ...

Toluwalogo Niji-O...

Aug 2, 2024

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Dating Advice

They Weren’t The Love Of Your Life — They Were The Love Of Your “...

Tanyel Mustafa

Jul 26, 2024

Unbothered

For Black Women, Dating Sucks. But That Doesn’t Mean We Should Settle

Kelle Salle

Apr 5, 2024

Relationships

Your Idea Of Chemistry Might Be Limiting Your Dating Pool

Maybelle Morgan

Feb 1, 2024

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Family

I’m 27 — Should I Start Telling My Dates That I Probably Don’t Want Kids?

Tanyel Mustafa

Jan 30, 2024

Friendship

Why Can’t We Meet Up Without Your Partner Coming Along?

Tanyel Mustafa

Jan 25, 2024

Dating Stories

I’m Done Entertaining My Friends In Relationships With My Dating Stories

Tanyel Mustafa

Dec 11, 2023

Relationships

If You Ask Where I’m “Really From,” You Won’t Get A Second Date

I have what’s been described as a “very London” accent. I also have olive skin and dark features. Like some odd magic trick, the latter seems to make

by Tanyel Mustafa

Somos Latine

My Latine Culture Taught Me to Be Selfless. Polyamory Ensures I&#...

It’s Saturday night, and DJ Laylo, one of my favorite DJs, is playing at Rumors in San Juan, Puerto Rico. I’ve been waiting for this party for weeks, s

by Kat Lazo

Dating Stories

At 29, I Finally Opened Up To My Immigrant Mom About Dating

I was 29 when I got the sex talk for the first time. My mom sat at one end of the couch looking at her phone while I sat in the opposite corner scrolling t

by Radhika Menon

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Unbothered

To Leave Or Stay? How Black Women Are Rewriting Relationship Rules

Michelle and Barack Obama’s 10-year rough patch. Tia Mowry’s divorce from Cory Hardrict. Nia Long’s split from Ime Udoka after his years of on-the-jo

by Sofiya Ballin

Unbothered

Why I Advocate For Disability To Be Fun, Fly & Sexy — Just Like Me

Model, actress, author and disability advocate Lauren “Lolo” Spencer reflects on the personal triumphs – and challenges – of living, working, and d

by Lauren "Lolo" Spe...

Can We Talk?

I Shouldn’t Have To Lower My Standards To Find Love… ...

Thanks for reading Can We Talk?, a sex and relationships column that aims to tackle the burning questions about sex, dating, relationships, and breakups

by Moraya Seeger DeG...

Single Files

I Have Herpes, And Here’s How It Has Affected My Dating Life

Laying on my back, spread eagle in front of a person I just met is never how I want my stories to start, but alas, that was the beginning of one of the mos

by Lexi Inks

Unbothered

John Boyega Says He Only Dates Black Women — What’s The Issue?

British-Nigerian actor John Boyega is the latest subject of online discourse this week, and surprisingly, it’s not because of his stellar (and thirst-ind

by Ineye Komonibo

Unbothered

Where Is The (Black) Love? A Multi-City Investigation

OWN reality dating show Ready to Love is back for its sixth season of helping sexy Black singles in the search to find true love. After hooking up couples

by Ineye Komonibo

Dating Stories

Dating With Severe Asthma: How I Learned To Put Myself First

I was nine when I went on my first date. He was a boy from elementary school who lived in the neighborhood and invited me over to his house to watch a movi

by Lilly O'Leary

Unbothered

For Black Women, Choosing To Be Soft In Relationships Can Be Hard...

I’m the youngest in a family of six, so naturally, you may think that softness was my birthright. Youngest siblings are supposed to be wild, carefree, an

by Ineye Komonibo

Sex

I Was Embarrassed By My Autosexuality — But Now, I Embrace It

In a freshers’ week haze many years ago, I dated a boy whose bed sat parallel to a mirrored wardrobe. Once, when we were having sex, I caught my atte

by Jess Herbert

Single Files

I Married Young. I Was Widowed Young. I Never Want A Long-Term Pa...

When my husband died, I vowed to stay single in my after-life. Not because I was grieving, but because domestic partnership was something I had no interest

by Rebecca Woolf

News

Is It Ever Okay To Out Someone From A Dating App? Even If It̵...

Ben Affleck has become an intriguing figure throughout the COVID-19 pandemic, with everything from his blinding back tattoo to his blinding love for Dunkin

by Lydia Wang

News

Heroic Woman Turned In Her Bumble Match After He Bragged About St...

There’s no shortage of dating app matches gone awry. A woman you find attractive shares that, yes, she actually likes “Live, Laugh, Love” wall art. A

by Danielle Campoamor

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Single Files

I’m Single, & The Hardest Part Of Dating Is Talking About M...

Welcome to The Single Files, Refinery29’s new bi-monthly column. Each installment will feature a personal essay that explores the unique joys and cha

by Vanese Maddix

Relationships

I Love Being Single, So Why Am I Desperate For A Coronavirus Boyf...

It was only day two of being quarantined alone in my Lower East Side apartment when I got a text from Ethan, a guy I had been on a couple of dates with. We

by Serena Kerrigan

Dating Stories

The Date Where I Proposed To My Partner

Welcome to 29 Dates, where we explore the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of dating — one date at a time. We met in 2015, at an event for a mut

by Anonymous

29 Dates

The Date Who Brought Me A Very Unusual Gift

Welcome to 29 Dates, where we explore the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of dating — one date at a time. Bob* was one of two internet dates I?

by Anonymous

Dedicated Feature

The Surprising Value Of “Bad” Dates, According To Real People

Remember that one date with the “method actor” who didn’t believe in tipping? The one with the stand-up comedian who insisted on recordin

by Eliza Dumais

Dating Stories

The Date Who I Had To Hide From

Welcome to 29 Dates, where we explore the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of dating — one date at a time. I’d been single for a year at t

by Anonymous

29 Dates

The Date With A Very Famous Actor

Welcome to 29 Dates, where we explore the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of dating — one date at a time. I was 25 and living in London and had

by Anonymous

Dating Stories

The Date Who Turned Out To Be Racist

Welcome to 29 Dates, where we explore the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of dating — one date at a time. Like most modern romances, I met my d

by Anonymous

29 Dates

The Date Who Got Arrested

Welcome to 29 Dates, where we explore the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of dating — one date at a time. I’m standing in a car park, watchin

by Anonymous

29 Dates

The Date I Went On With The Wrong Twin

Welcome to 29 Dates, where we explore the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of dating — one date at a time. I know it sounds disingenuous to insi

by Anonymous

Dating Stories

The Date Where I Got Catfished

Welcome to 29 Dates, where we explore the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of dating — one date at a time. I had just broken up with my boyfrien

by Anonymous

Dating Stories

The Date That Only Lasted 10 Minutes

Welcome to 29 Dates, where we explore the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of dating — one date at a time. When I matched with a 32-year-old Tex

by Anonymous

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