10 Major Wedding-Planning Myths, Debunked

Illustrated by Mallory Heyer.
By Stefania Sainato

Weddings are seen as symbols of love, hope, devotion, sacrifice, and the future — not just for the bride and groom, but also for their family, friends, and community. And, with them comes a host of expectations (just take a look at these wedding complaints I’ve heard).

Sometimes, these perceptions are so deeply ingrained that we don’t even realize they’re there. I’m three months shy of getting married (!) and it’s only now, at the tail end of my engagement, that I’m able to see how certain myths have shaped my planning process for better (and for worse). Where did these crazy ideas come from?

My fiancé, Jason, blames the crappy reality TV that I watch and my love of fairy tales as a kid, but I think it runs deeper than that: Myths are also formed from cultural beliefs and stories that are passed down to us. Ahead, just a few of them. What would you add to the list?

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