8 Silly Things Even The Best Ride-Or-Die Besties Fight About

One of the biggest fights I ever had with my best friend was when we were trying to move into an apartment together. She wanted to look off campus; I didn't have time to help with the search. In the end, we both took single rooms in the same dorm building, living separately but remaining great friends.

It was during this time that I learned a major BFF lesson: People need space. When we were living together in a tiny dorm room, my friend was practically like my sister — and having grown up with a sister, I was totally on board. But from my friend's perspective, especially since I was staying with my boyfriend most weekends, it made sense for her to get her own space. I was hurt, but I shouldn't have been.

Ahead, we round up eight silly things even the best of friends fight over. Most of these are meaningless, and many could happen more than once, but in the end, you and your bestie will make it through — as you always do.

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Unfortunately, you may dislike your BFF's S.O. at some point (and your bestie may dislike yours). But half of this feeling might stem from the fear of spending less time with your friend. Make an effort to hang out one-on-one sans boyfriends or girlfriends, and focus on talking about other things in life if the S.O. really irks you that much. But reminder: You love this person, so will anyone really seem good enough?
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You're bound to get a little competitive every now and then, whether comparing outfits or job prospects. Just remember: While it might seem like fun and games, jealousy can truly mess up some lifelong friendships. If you're feeling a little green, come clean and think to yourself, What, exactly, am I jealous of? And why?
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So you like the same person. So what? People can be attracted to each other. Just go back to number two and remind yourself that this isn't a competition — one person isn't "better" simply because someone else is attracted to him or her. Plus, crushes are instant bonding moments — but it might be better to fawn over unattainable celebs.
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Yes, BFFs share clothes. But if you're finding that yours is stealing one too many Brandy Melville shirts without returning them, it might be time to start asking for them back. A simple, "Hey, have you seen my Zara crop top?" could suffice as a reminder that you know what you're missing. But if lying is happening — that's a whole other story. It might be time to confront someone about his or her sticky fingers.
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The three-way call in Mean Girls is no longer a thing. Now, it's all about group texts. And getting left off one could leave you clueless about inside jokes and plans alike. Be proactive and start a new group text (with a fun name) if you feel like you're missing out. Then, the only silly thing left to argue about is the name of the group, obviously.
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Friendship is a two-way street, which means the burden of reaching out is shared by two people. So what happens if one person keeps canceling at the last minute? It might be time for a talk. Begin by saying how this makes you feel, and ask if there are better ways to plan things out for him or her. If it keeps happening, this could be a sign of something larger at issue — maybe that person is dealing with something that he or she can't talk about. Give your friend space — and show that you're always there to talk.
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What are friends for if not to be brutally honest, right? Well, not always. Sometimes when someone asks "Do I look good in these jeans?" what that person is really saying is, "I need a little confidence boost, please, thanks." Maybe you're needed for support; maybe you really need to tell your friend that those shoes clash with that top.
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The solution: Untag yourself. If it's really horrible and you know somebody special might see it, ask if your friend will take it down, or provide a replacement photo of the momentous event that you just had to selfie. But, most likely, in 10 years when you look back at this photo, you'll be like, aw, I was cute.
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