Having a need to be needed
"When a codependent person’s help is not wanted, they get mad," Eck says. "It’s part of their identity, and they don’t like that sense of rejection."
Difficulty setting and keeping boundaries
"Whether it’s in an intimate relationship or coworker relationship, they’ll do anything to please the other person," Eck says. "They’ll change who they are just to get someone to like them."
Staying silent to keep the peace
Feeling sad and lonely when you're not with the other person
"When that person is gone, they feel totally empty," she says. "And that’s when the clingy behavior comes in — people can act really needy and scared, and start texting their significant other incessantly."
Being defensive if loved ones express concerns about your relationship
"A lot of the time, other people will see that you’re in an unhealthy relationship before you do," she says. "If you hear yourself defending the relationship a lot, that’s a clue that something is wrong."
Over-blaming yourself for problems
An excessive desire to rescue people or be responsible for them
"Codependent people tend to attract people who need someone to take care of them," Eck says. "Usually, the sad part about a codependent relationship is that the recipient is using the codependent."