9 Millennial Women Get Real About How They Plan To Raise Their Kids

There are innumerable contributing factors that come into play when raising a child — ranging from one's own upbringing and personal belief system to any religious convictions and level of education to fears, passions, and desires. Now combine all of that with the overall impact society has on us, and you’ll start to see why no two children are raised the same way.

But while children are undoubtedly multifaceted, there are certain key qualities — or guiding traits — that most parents hope their children will have.

In partnership with LEGO DUPLO, we decided to take a closer look at how parenting styles differ by putting nine millennial moms up to the challenging task of choosing the single most important thing they want their child to be. Here’s what they had to say.

Illustrated by Paola Delucca.
Compassionate

“I want them to feel empathy, to feel the need to help others, and to spread positivity and love. The only way we can have a more beautiful and tolerable world is by raising our little humans to believe it deserves to be.” —Brittany Pepper, 33, Stormville, NY; mom to Madelyn (age 4), Charlotte (age 4), and Olivia (age 8)

“In a country of overindulgence, I think I would be most proud if my children grow up to be compassionate individuals who appreciate what they have and care for those who are not as fortunate as them.” —Danielle Gorshein, 34, Wayne, NJ; mom to Sadie (age 3 1/2) and Maya (age 1 1/2)
Empowered

“I think the balance of self-love and loving others is the key to success and happiness. Most people don’t have a healthy sense of self, knowing what they need to stay healthy and happy. In turn, they over give to find validation. Conversely, people who are taught to be the center of their own universe lack the empathy to make deep emotional connections. I believe there is a balance to this, which is what I want to teach my daughter. This way she has the confidence to know how and when to say yes and no.” —Rebecca Krauss, 35, Brooklyn, NY; mom to Doris (age 5)
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Cheerful

“[My son] was born early with complications and stayed in the hospital for over a month. But you would never know because he has been, and continues to be, the happiest baby I have ever known. He is so happy and makes everyone happy wherever we go. I love his joy for life and never want him to lose that. I believe you get back what you put into this world, and what's better than happiness?” —Amanda Droogan, 30, Huntington Station, NY; mom to Oliver (age 1)
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Respectful

“Respect can encompass many things. First and foremost, respect for themselves, their body, their mind, and everything they value. Respect for authority, including teachers, police, coaches, friends’ parents, and other adults who are looking out for their well-being. And respect for friends, classmates, teammates, and peers in that they would treat them the same way they would want to be treated.” —Stephanie Davis, 33, Wellington, FL; mom to Emma (age 4) and Ava (age 7)
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Adaptable

“I believe the single most important character trait that would serve people well in the future is adaptability. We are rapidly becoming a very connected global community, and no matter how much we prepare ourselves to succeed, without the ability to adapt to new, unknown, and/or unexpected situations, we will fail. Accordingly, I want my children to have the ability to adapt.” —Shahrina Ankhi-Krol, Esq., 33, New York, NY; mom to a son (age 2 1/2) and a daughter (age 1)
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Open-Minded

“Being open to new things and ideas would allow my sons to have fuller lives and be more kind, compassionate, and accepting. I hope they have beliefs they are passionate about and are willing to fight for, but I also hope they are willing to listen to other points of view.” —Courtney Droogan, 35, Wheaton, IL; mom to Charlie (age 3) and Connor (age 5)
Illustrated by Paola Delucca.
Self-Confident

“It’s important for my daughter to know her worth in this world — to believe in who she is, to respect herself and the value of what she has to give. My desire is to instill this esteem so that she moves through life with confidence, conviction, and compassion.” —Rachel Landes Rubin, 32, Philadelphia, PA; mom to Vida (age 5)
Illustrated by Paola Delucca.
Creative

“I think everyone is born creative. How we choose to channel that creativity is what makes life interesting. I hope that both of my daughters have the confidence to trust their imagination and use their creativity and curiosity to make their mark: to build, to question, to challenge, to problem solve, to bring more joy into the world.” —Rachel Birnbaum, 39, New York, NY; mom to Beya (age 4) and Zoey (4 weeks)
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