Let's reclaim the mantra of it’s not the destination, it’s the journey from the depths of #basic Pinterest boards and hand it over to our rear ends. Why? Because the butt needs a little bedroom rebranding. There’s a common assumption that being down for butt and anal play means taking a full battering ram to the behind (here for it, don’t get us wrong) but that’s only one way to explore the full pleasure rectum spectrum that our bums can offer during sex and foreplay. You can opt for a gentle rectal or cheek massage; get into a little spanking and flogging; invest in a gorgeous dildo (might we add, there's a few on promo right this way) and a bejeweled plug; or you can simply take your lightly lubed finger on a Journey to the Center of the Earth.
Think of “butt stuff” like a different level in Mario Cart: all the surprises, hurdles, and joys of reaching this new level are relative depending on your experience — and every facet of the experience is why we play the game in the first place. So, grab your headlamp and get ready to explore. We’re going in with a selection of the best beginner sex toys and accessories for the "butt stuff" you've always wanted to give a go.
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Unbound Babes Romp
The perfect beginner's plug. This baby has an ample handle and a max of 1.3 inches in girth and 4.5 inches in depth. The slender, tapered shape makes it perfect for a romp in and around the rear. Note: not compatible with silicone lube.
Blush Novelties Sassy Anal Beads
Drumroll for the anal beads, please! Unlike plugs (which, well, stay plugged) stringed anal beads are meant to be gently inserted and exerted, which is why it's so wonderful to find a set with such varied bead size. With ten graduations, this is a set into which beginners can truly grow; even before insertion, try gently sliding the beads up and down the outside of the anus (no beads? use your knuckles!) to relax and stimulate.
Lelo Moisturizing Lubricant
Lube, lube, lube! A little anal penetration prep goes a long way (note: you may also consider having some wipes on hand) and gets a little help from a water-based lube. This solution from Lelo is hypoallergenic, moisturizing, and infused with ginseng – and damn, it's chic.
Lovehoney Basics Beaded Butt Plug
Same, but different pretty much wraps up the distinction between your classic butt plug and a beaded plug. This pretty (and pliable) little number fits in the palm of your hand and is a great gateway to anal beads with its four graduated sizes and flared base (which prevents over-insertion). Again: bring the lube.
Pleasure Works Vibrating Waterproof Plug
A sleek design – and show-stopping silhouette, if we may say so – makes this waterproof plug both a chic accessory for your bathroom shelf and a great way to take your anal play to the next step by taking it to the shower or tub (why yes, you can bring some sex toys the bath). Once you're comfortable, turn up the vibrations with three gradual intensities.
Liberator Black Throw
This plush blanket packs satin lining on one side, and has an inner barrier that will keep every surface upon which it's placed (or tugged, thrown, stretched – get creative!) dry. Machine washable.
Unbound Babes "Tsk" Whip and Paddle
Spank a little. Flog a little. Don't forget that when it comes to "butt stuff," you can always start by getting cheeky. This double-headed whip and paddle have a lightness of touch and aesthetic that's, quite frankly, adorable.
Booty Sparks Red Heart Gem Plug
Unassuming in size but not style, a gem handled metal plug is such a boudoir classic. The material is also slightly weighted, which makes for a deeper sensation.
Liberator Wedge
Easing into anal play is a reminder of how pleasurable it can be to pump the breaks, and take your time in the bedroom. We're big fans of sex furniture as it quite literally supports that ethos; a solid "wedge" provides a comfy sitch in which to throw your bum to the sky for extended periods of time.
Shots America Glass Doubler
This baby turns an impressive look, but it's actually designed with newbies mind; the glass is "borosilicate" which means it's perfect for temperature play, easy to clean, and the double-headed wand is perfect for endless variations of anal and vaginal play.