The Best Sex Toys To Help You Masturbate

"If you can find a way to hone in on your own pleasure, then you can take care of yourself for the rest of your life," Lisa Finn, a sex educator for Babeland, once told Refinery29. She wasn't wrong. Being able to get yourself off helps ensure that you'll be satisfied in your partnered sexual encounters too. And masturbating with sex toys are a great way to learn how to please yourself.

"They allow our bodies to experience different sensations that we may not be able to create with our hands alone," explains Erica Smith, sex educator. "For people with vulvas, vibrating toys can be the difference between achieving orgasm or not, and there is absolutely no shame in needing a vibrator in order to experience orgasm."

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Whether you're just starting to dabble in the world of sex toys or you're an experienced user who's interested in trying out a new type, we've got you covered. These are the best sex toys to masturbate with, according to the sex experts.

At Refinery29, we’re here to help you navigate this overwhelming world of stuff. All of our market picks are independently selected and curated by the editorial team. All product details reflect the price and availability at the time of publication. If you buy something we link to on our site, Refinery29 may earn commission.

Magic Wand Original


"Original" is right. People have been masturbating with the Magic Wand since it was being marketed as a back massager in the 1960s, Smith says. "It's a tried-and-true legend. It provides a deep rumbly sensation and a super powerful vibration that you can feel in your entire pelvic region."

The Magic Wand can be intense, so unless you're used to high-powered vibration, you might not want to place it on your most sensitive spots from the get-go. Start by touching it to the outside of your genitals, and go slow to find your sweet spots.
Magic Wand Magic Wand Original, $89.99 $69.99 Buy

Tenga Iroha Vibe


The Tenga is a fantastic starter vibe. It has a soft, almost plush texture and it's not overtly sex toy-shaped, which many people appreciate. "I first spotted these little guys at Opening Ceremony, which speaks to the style and design of their products," Myisha Battle, certified sex and dating coach, tells Refinery29, calling them, "beautiful, unassuming and high-performing."

"The Tenga is designed for clitoral stimulation," Battle notes. The vibration is powerful, but the plush texture helps diffuse the buzz so you won't find it overwhelming if it's your first time using this type of toy. It's great for solo sex, and great for partnered sex too.
Tenga Iroha Vibe, $99.00 Buy

K-Y Intense Pleasure Gel


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Ready to kick it up a notch? Use this lube if you’re looking for something a little more intense (think a combination of warming, cooling, and tingling sensations). Pair it with your favorite sex toy, and consider this your ticket to pleasure 2.0.
K-Y K - Y Intense Pleasure Gel Lubricant, $28.81 Buy
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B-Vibe Snug Plug


"Butts are in, so having a little plug is great," says Jimanekia Eborn, sex educator and trauma specialist. "I recommend starting with the B-Vibe Snug Plug. They're comfortable, and as you continue to explore you can go up in size."

If you're new to experimenting with anal play, please — please — prep correctly, and use lube.
B-Vibe Snug Plug, $55.00 Buy

Fun Factory Stronic Surf Pulsator II

Plenty of people skip penetration entirely when they're masturbating. If you haven't tried incorporating it into your solo sex routine, it's worth considering — try it alone or combine it with your usual form of stimulation to really take your orgasm to the next level.

For anyone interested, this toy comes highly recommended. "The Pulsator has a bit of weight to it that allows it to move differently inside your body. Fun tip: Try twisting it while inserting it in and out of your body," says Eborn. "You can thank me later."
Fun Factory Stronic Surf Pulsator II, $169.99 Buy

Fun Factory Be One


Finger vibes are a great addition to anyone's toy collection, but they're especially good for people who are new to touching themselves, or who have had trauma in their past and may not be comfortable touching themselves with a toy, says Eborn.

This little vibe makes your own finger vibrate, providing an extra boost when you touch yourself. "It's great with sensations and allows you to connect and add a little special tingle to your body," Eborn says.
Fun Factory Be One, $69.90 Buy

Dame Pom


If you feel intimidated by the bells and whistles you see on other sex toys, the Pom is the toy for you. It's totally intuitive to use. "Pom literally fits in the palm of your hand, which makes it feel natural and comfortable to hold, almost like it's an extension of yourself in some sense," Emily DePasse, sexologist and founder of SexELDucation, tells Refinery29. It's water-proof too, if you're interested in some bath time fun.

"This toy has five vibration styles with five different intensities, which makes it more accessible for those who might have different clitoral sensitivities or sensation desires," adds DePasse.
Dame Products Pom, $95.00 Buy
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