Sex And The City definitely made me feel more comfortable experimenting with women.
"But, Sex And The City definitely made me feel more comfortable experimenting with women as a baby queer. Samantha is my homegirl, even though the girls' reactions to her dating a woman were cringey. They could have had a great opportunity to normalize and destigmatize, but they didn’t take advantage of it." — Lauren, cisgender bisexual woman
Not every piece of media needs to be groundbreaking and boundary-pushing.
SATC helped me to unapologetically own my sexuality.
SATC was positive representation for mostly straight, white women.
SATC showed it's queer characters as gross stereotypes.
Was Sex in the City perfect for queers? Absolutely not.
"I mean, Samantha's whole relationship with Maria is an exercise in cringing uncontrollably as a queer woman. It was basically a parody of lesbian relationships, capitalizing on the 'overemotional' stereotype of two women being together.
"Sex And The City was always a guilty pleasure for me. In terms of queerness, it's more of a cultural artifact now than a current representation. We have to look at it in terms of context, both the fact that it was 20 years ago and that the envelope at the time could only be pushed so far. Was Sex in the City perfect for queers? Absolutely not. Did it do what it could for us at the time? I think so." — Katie, cisgender queer woman
Women loving women on SATC were hyper-sexualized, tokenized, and made to seem exotic.
"I never particularly enjoyed watching the show, and did not relate to it. It was a means to create small talk with straight, primarily white, peers as a teen. Now, those memes of Sarah Jessica sitting at her computer, typing her thoughts and feelings into the ether? Those 'get' me." — Haley, queer/pansexual woman (she or they pronouns)
It served to help boost visibility of LGBTQ+ people, but did little else.