It can’t be just anyone.
According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine
, a surrogate should be at least 21 years old, have given birth to at least one child, had complication-free pregnancies, had no more than three C-sections, have a "healthy" BMI
, not smoke, not abuse drugs or alcohol, be financially stable, not be on government assistance, live in a surrogacy-friendly state
, be emotionally stable, have a strong support system, have a squeaky clean legal background, and be able to pass rigorous medical and psychological screenings. It may seem that such a laundry list would be a pretty clear-cut way to find “the one.” But there’s even more to it for me.