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9 Things You Should Say During A Fight — So You BOTH Win

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    Looking for real talk about the most important relationships in your life? Who isn't! YourTango is our go-to destination for cathartic love advice, sexy tips, brave personal essays, and an amazing network of experts who solve our trickiest dilemmas. Whether you're single, married, divorced, or in-between, the online magazine is not afraid to cover the stuff we all think, but don't say out loud. (Also, the articles and hilarious memes on their Facebook page bring tears to our eyes!)
    Are you a pirate when it comes to fighting? As in, do you brazenly charge in with accusations, a smattering of profanity, and hope to crudely beat your point across? The brutal truth is that this will get you nowhere with your partner.

    Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, compiled a list of 23 phrases that can help couples turn a verbal brawl back down to a constructive fight. Here are YourTango's top picks from that list — and why we think they work so well.




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