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Professional Dancing Lessons
According to every rom-com, all engaged couples take professional dance classes to prepare for their reception. But before you rush to sign up at Alvin Ailey, ask yourself one question: When's the last time you went to a wedding where anyone did the waltz?
If you're genuinely worried that your moves aren't up to snuff, watch some instructional YouTube videos while practicing in a mirror. Boom, you can dance.
A Large Bridal Party
There is nothing wrong with being flanked by a dozen of your sisters — whether biological, sorority, or spiritual — at all times on your wedding day. But just know it is not mandatory. If you don't have a large group of close friends or a giant extended family, you're not required to pretend that you do just because you're getting married. Having lots of bridesmaids comes with its own special costs (both mental and financial) and having just one or two attendants to help you on the day, or foregoing a bridal party altogether, is absolutely fine.
An Engagement Party
If you want to have an engagement party, by all means, do it. But don't get sucked into the idea that you must have multiple pre-wedding events (engagement party, bridal luncheon, bridal shower, bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, not to mention a morning-after brunch) just because Martha Stewart tells you to. If you don't really have the budget — or the inclination — skip it and never look back.
I know plenty of intelligent, rational people who have suffered from diamond ring-induced psychosis. The primary symptom is posting 130 professional photos of yourself and your partner blowing kisses at each other on a rowboat and captioning it with something that isn't even a little bit ironic. Please don't do this.* It's making me feel weird.
*Do it if you want to.
Send Printed Invitations For Every Event
There is something undeniably nice about sending wedding-related correspondence by post rather than email. But it is also expensive, much more difficult to track, and less convenient for your guests. Don't let
my mom anyone tell you that it's tacky to use email invites, particularly for peripheral events (like that engagement party I just advised you to skip). Save the paper for the real wedding invitations.