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Most wedding RSVPs don't require much of you. You show up at the set date and time, bring a present, smile for pictures, drink Champagne, do the conga — all things you're mostly happy to do. But, there are some nuptial affairs that require additional commitments, like a four-hour car ride, an entire weekend's worth of celebrations, bridesmaid duty, or the responsibility of helping the bride open presents at her shower. And, for all those other non-wedding-day wedding events, you're going to need the outfits ahead.
It can be tricky enough deciding what to wear to the main event — and, we've got your back there, too — but really it's the shower, bachelorette party, and next-day brunch (for both short- and long-distance destination weddings) that come without a prescribed dress code. So, in order to avoid all sartorial guessing games, we've broken down the looks, both by occasion and preference — yes, pants and skirt options for all!