Believing that weddings ought not bring out the bridezilla in each of us, Stone Fox Bride — a high-fashion boutique in Manhattan — was founded on the principle that planning a wedding is also a process of self-discovery. Molly Guy, creative director at SFB, is our source for the nontraditional bride. For more real wedding goodness, check out SFB's Instagram. This week, we meet the boutique's first-ever client, Ivy, who tells us the story of her marriage to Josh. This article was originally published Sept. 6.
I met my spouse, Josh, because he went to art school with my ex-fiancé. Sometimes the path is curvy. When I first saw him, my first thought was trouble. I don't usually go for blond guys, but he had a dark humor. For our first date, we went to the opera at Lincoln Center, Madame Butterfly. I knew the puppeteer in the show, so we had incredible orchestra seats and got to play on the stage of the Met afterward. Then we went to Koreatown and made out.
We are more alike in temperament than people I'd been with in the past. Usually, I was seen as the crazy one. Now we take turns. I think the alternating actually creates a balance previously lacking with either of us. Here’s the truth: I think there are lots of "ones" that could’ve given us rich lives. The trick is finding a good match and then discovering the places we have to work on ourselves and the relationship. Not so romantic-sounding perhaps, but authentic to my experience. That said, I fall in love with him again every time I see him on stage. The first time we said “I love you,” we were in bed at his parents' house in Nashville. He looked at me scared and then told me “I love you.” A year later, he gave me my engagement ring in that same bed.
For me, the topic of marriage has always been strangely organic. I never really wanted to be married until I got married, hence our four-year engagement. We got engaged about a year after we'd started dating. I like being engaged; it's sort of this poetic incubation period. My ring is vintage-deco from the '20s. I don't remember talking about getting engaged before he proposed, but we have always talked about the institution of marriage, relationships, where we stand philosophically with these concepts. We always talk about social concepts like those.