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"I learned that having sex doesn't mean everything else stops. You're still moving, breathing, audible people. You can laugh, sigh, joke, and totally pause to reconnect. It's a living, breathing thing that can follow any possible path. And when you feel okay deciding to hit ‘stop,’ recalibrate, or perhaps, make a comment, you know you're with someone you're supremely comfortable with."
— Ellie, 27
"A little hair never hurt anyone! Shaving all the time is boring and uncomfortable, and pubic hair is super cute."
— Lilly, 25
"Don't be afraid to get in there and self-stimulate if that's what's going to give you the most enjoyment. It makes sex better for everyone. And if a partner is too intimidated by that and it makes them feel inadequate, that's not the kind of person you should be with, anyway."
— Alida, 31
"You need to ask for what you want. No one is a mind reader."
— Michelle, 25