17 Things No One Tells You About Getting Married

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Wedding planning can be one of the happiest phases in your life — but it can also be one of the most stressful. Even if you're planning a low-key event — or you think you're the chillest bride in the world — you're still bound to get hung up on something during the process.

And unfortunately, even if you think you have all the details worked out, you will likely forget at least one small thing — and even if you don't, there's always at least one unexpected thing that goes wrong. A lost thank-you card, a late flower delivery, a hiccup with the marriage license — it is bound to happen, and when it does, you just have to roll with it.

We asked Refinery29 staffers to describe what they wish they knew before starting wedding planning. Some of the tips came from people still in the engagement and planning stages. Others are from employees who are already married — but still remember the details they lost sleep over. Click through to see our best tips and secrets. Happy planning!