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The Dos & Don'ts Of Helping A Friend Through A Bad Breakup

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    On her blog, Plus Size Princess, CeCe Olisa has detailed everything from what it's like to be the only big black girl in a yoga class (fine, thanks!), to her adventures in plus-size dating in the Big Apple. Now, the New York City transplant is lending her poignant, often-hilarious voice to R29.
    I had been dutifully helping my friends through breakups for years, but it wasn’t until my first relationship ended that I realized I had been doing it all wrong.

    We probably all know the importance of being a good listener, not lecturing, and not bashing a friend's ex too hard (you know, in case they get back together). But I was mortified when I realized that the questions that drove me crazy during my breakup were the very questions I found myself asking my newly single pals. It got me thinking about the right and wrong ways of supporting friends who suddenly find themselves without a plus-one — no matter who made the decision to end the relationship.

    Based on personal experience, here’s a list of dos and don’ts for being a good friend during a breakup. Feel free to add your own advice in the comments section.


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