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Can Negative Thoughts Cause Bad Things To Happen?

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There is so much talk about negative thinking. People, myself included, often say, "Stop thinking negatively.” Well, is it possible that with negative thinking and fearful thinking, we bring those negative and feared outcomes to life? Do we, or can we, open the door to bad outcomes as we let those thoughts live and grow in our mind?
My mind is always abuzz with thoughts. I analyze and over-think just about everything. I am fighting it, still, there are times when I am overcome with fear. I'm really interested to hear your thoughts.
We are all intuitive to varying degrees. It certainly is possible to strengthen that muscle further through a myriad of practices. It will not, however, alleviate the fear that we all experience at different times. I can not honestly say that a single one of my teachers or friends who are powerful, intuitive people have any more peace because of their ability. Peace comes through surrender, not power.
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We tend to manifest more our unconscious material than the conscious; most of us are living a solid section of our lives through that unconscious realm. This is my observation from being a clinician for two and half decades and thousands of people. This is one reason this whole new-age manifestation movement does not bear fruit in real life. When not due to past trauma, negative thoughts are usually a form of control. Instead of living in the unknown, our mind finds it easier to think of a worst-case scenario, so it can feel like it is in control. It is prepared for the worst and is ready.
It's not just that we have to be aware of negative thoughts, we have to be aware of all thoughts. Our bodies can not distinguish between thought and reality. Even if we disagree on the ability to manifest thoughts externally, our biology still responds as if thoughts are real. It is an evolutionary lag, where the nervous system reacts as if thoughts are happening in real time. Then, there is a cascade of chemical reactions that follow that can be detrimental to our well-being. But, it is important to note that this can also happen with “positive” thoughts. Whether we are fantasizing about a perceived “good” or “bad” event, our body is reacting by activating and agitating our nervous system. Thoughts are not free in that sense, we pay for them dearly.
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This post was authored by Abdi Assadi.