How To Use The Past To Move Forward In Life

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Here I am, 35 years old, feeling like I have so much to offer the world, and yet I feel like a newborn baby (though my experience would say different)! I ran the health and wellness center for the world headquarters of a major national corporation right out of college, and opened my first franchise fitness center a few years later. A few years after that, after losing my first son, I sold the business and delved into a huge spiritual opening. Then, my husband and I left our marriage.
I earned my Doctorate in Naturopathy, traveled the world, studied in Ireland with one of the best transformational healers, opened a Holistic Mind/Body/Spirit Wellness practice where I did private sessions, held workshops, taught and gained clients from all over the world. Then, I self-published my first book, spent my entire "small fortune," and am now starting from the ground up in a new state (physically and mentally).
I am expecting a baby in June and need to somehow take all I've done, re-examine how to connect all the dots and come out with something new entirely, yet have that deer-in-headlights look right now. How can I move forward?
— Jennifer, Minnesota
Wow! You’re clearly an entrepreneur, having conceived and run two different businesses. You’re also open to constantly learning (and you’re smart!), having earned a doctorate; you’re an adventurer, having traveled the world. You’re a seeker, having explored your spiritual side. You’ve survived the end of a marriage and the unimaginable loss of a child and came through to the other side. You have lived a remarkable life and, indeed, have so much to offer!
Where’s the “deer-in-the-headlights” feeling coming from now? You have a history of switching gears and bravely trying new things. The key question to ask yourself is: Why is it different this time?
Is it that you have so many interests, strengths, and talents that you’re overwhelmed with the number of choices you have in front of you? Is it that you move through experiences in search of something you have not yet found — and fear you may never find? Is it that you have a desire to live a certain kind of life — or be a certain kind of person — for your new baby?
What is your truth? You’ve undoubtedly helped others find theirs — now it’s time to find your own. And finding it will help you move ahead with confidence and take the steps you will intuitively know are right for you.
This will sound strange, but as part of your process, sit down and write your own obituary. It will make you focus, with laser-like precision, on how you want to be remembered, the values you want to live by and what you want your life to mean. Once you have articulated that for yourself, then go and live that life. Because you have the experience and passion to create anything you can imagine.

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