I Make Much More Than My Partner — Here’s How We Split The Bills

Illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

By L.W. Northmore

I earn 55% more than my husband. That’s a big difference, and our situation is growing less unique by the day. The percentage of women who earn more than their husbands has been climbing steadily over the past 30 years. And as women continue to earn more higher-education degrees than men, it’s likely this upward “trend” will continue.

But it’s one thing to talk about changing social norms in the face of statistics — and another thing to handle them in a real relationship.

Because of the difference between what my husband and I earn, I’m frequently faced with adjusting my goals or finding a way to negotiate each of our emotions. In my experience, communicating our needs early and often is a great way to minimize frustration, hurt feelings, and hurt pride.

Here are five conversations we have that keep things running smoothly.