These Gross Grooming Habits Are Signs Of True Love

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When you’re first seeing someone who gives you the feels — your heart still speeds up before he or she comes over, you can't seem to finish a meal when you're out on a date — you may go out of your way to avoid doing certain things in front of this potential long-term mate. Maybe you make an excuse to go home rather than risk stinking up your love interest’s bathroom. Perhaps you hide your habit of squeezing out your ingrown hairs. Or you have to try extra hard to stop yourself from picking spinach out of your new beau's teeth.

This brings to mind a certain Sex and the City moment involving Mr. Big and a rogue fart. I used to think Carrie’s insanely embarrassed reaction after letting one go in front of her boyfriend was a little over-the-top (though that was kind of her thing, right?). It's only natural. I thought. I've done a lot grosser things in front of a BF before. Why did she care so much? But perhaps Big and Carrie had just not gotten comfortable yet.

Though I still can't quite picture Carrie popping a Big pimple (maybe in SATC 3?), if those two are like most couples, those boundaries will undoubtedly break down — and it's a slippery slope. A relationship can quickly move from the couple not doing “gross” things in front of each other to doing said gross things to each other. It all depends on the people, of course, but popping a zit here, plucking a hair there, or clipping a toenail or two, is all fair game for couples (and friends) who feel super-comfy with each other.

I couldn't help but wonder, though... Just how far does this intimacy go behind closed bathroom doors? Awkward fart moments aside, I decided to poll some of my peers (all anonymously, of course) and find out about their partner-on-partner grooming habits.

Read on for 10 amazingly intimate moments, and decide for yourself how close is too close.
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"Hope this one is 100% anonymous! I shave my husband's ear hair, so he cannot pretend he does not hear me."
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"My best friend has this clogged pore in her armpit that's just always a little inflamed. It's in a weird place that she can't reach herself, and her husband won't go anywhere near it. So every once in awhile when we're hanging out, she takes a hot shower and then we'll spend an afternoon with me squeezing out the clog. What are BFFAEs for, right?"
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"My boyfriend and I both have undercuts and about once a week, we shave each others' hair. This takes a lot of trust! Even my hairstylist is amazed at the cuteness and the lack of traditional, professional beauty regard that this takes!"
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"I used to date a guy who would actually STOP kissing me to pluck my rogue nose hairs."
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"My fiancé and I pop each others' pimples when necessary. I'm also not afraid of reaching out and picking at his teeth if I see something hanging. He's definitely helped excavate ingrown hairs on my bikini line."
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"How is my fiancée not over-involved in my routines? The other day, she got mad when I popped a zit myself... The biggest example is probably Biore nose strips, though. Apparently, I have amazing pores and blackheads, so every chance she gets she sticks one on my nose, tells me not to make faces at her for a few minutes, and then slowly (painfully) peels it away. Then, she thoroughly inspects the strip and what I can only assume are all the gaping holes it has left on my nose. Plucking stray ear and nose hairs is a common occurrence, too...but I have to be careful she doesn't decide to go after my eyebrows. (Can you tell I have a low tolerance for pain?) I rely on her to shave the back of my neck in-between haircuts, too."
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"My boyfriend doesn't have cavities, but he never flosses. I, on the other hand, have very weak teeth and am obsessed with flossing. I equate it to something as satisfying as getting a massage. My ideal evenings are spent freshly showered, watching Rachel Maddow, with a white DenTek floss pick in hand. While there's not much mystery in our relationship (we live together), sometimes he'll let me floss his teeth! Not only do I find it satisfying, but so does he. But he'll only let me floss the ones in the front; the back of the mouth feels too invasive."
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"My ex used to carefully clean my ears with a bobby pin, and it was the BEST. It's literally the only thing I miss about him."
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"All of my boyfriends have had to Nair my patches of back hair from time to time. During periods of singledom, I have had a couple girlfriends that do it for me."
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"I tweeze ball hair. It’s good for us both."
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