15 Things You Should Never Say To The Bride

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By Davia Montaya

As a wedding planner, I know first-hand that planning your nuptials can be a stressful and emotional process. A bride often turns to her close friends and family members throughout the engagement to help cheer her along and make the journey special. However, sometimes those same loved ones can start to feel a little too comfortable — and say the one wrong thing that, at the drop of a hat, can change everything.

Friends and family, this guide is for you. Ahead, the comments you should steer clear of uttering to the bride.






















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They may have just met, and you could have her best interest at heart, but at this point you need to just support her. A wedding always starts with two people in love wanting to spend a lifetime together, even if it doesn’t last forever.
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The bride is completely aware of how much this wedding is costing and the added expenses of attending or standing by her side. She will likely understand if it's just completely unrealistic for you to attend — and you have a right to decide not to. Whatever you decide, never complain about the cost.
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Yellow might not be your favorite color, but maybe it has a special meaning to her that you know nothing about. The color palette should reflect the bride and be something she feels personally connected to, which means you need to just go with it.
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One of the worst things you could ever say — hands down! A bride picks a dress she emotionally connects with, so she may take it personally if you question her taste. Follow the adage, "If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all," comment on something else, or ask about her veil.

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As much as you would never spend X amount on flowers, maybe they have a special meaning to her, or they are her one splurge. My golden rule is that you cannot comment on how much is spent on any aspect of the wedding unless you are paying for it.
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Being nasty about someone's weight is a major no-no on a regular day, so why would right before the wedding be any different?
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The bride has probably checked the weather multiple times a day leading up to her nuptials. However, there is only so much she can do, so chances are she's accepted that she can't control the forecast. Don't make her any more concerned than she already is.
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Every wedding budget is different. Every bride is trying to do the absolute best she can with the finances she has at her disposal. There's absolutely no need for people to comment on the financial particulars of the affair.
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On her wedding day, although you may think that comparing your friend to someone is a huge compliment, she might disagree. In this case, it's just better to tell her how beautiful she is without referencing anyone else.

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Any sentence on her wedding day that starts with this is a recipe for disaster! Just don’t.
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The ceremony choices that the bride and groom make are personal, and although it might not make sense to you, it's none of your business who's in the wedding party or what kind of religious — or non-religious — ceremony they have.
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These days, a lot of brides use Pinterest as a planning resource. Just because they're taking inspiration from there on their big day doesn't mean they're "unoriginal."
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The bride already knows all too well how much everything cost, and reminding her on her wedding day is just not okay. It's best not to reference the cost of anything throughout the planning process unless you're paying for it.
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Again, just don’t say it. This is totally out of line — no matter how close you are to the bride.
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If the bride has asked you to be a part of her wedding in any way, it is because you are special to her. All the tasks of planning a wedding on top of everyday life can be overwhelming, and the best thing you can do is be there for her. And, when she needs to vent (which she will), it's your job to listen and tell her that it will all work out beautifully.

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