7 Threesome Positions That Will Make Your Fantasy A Reality

When it comes to partnered sex, most of us can easily conjure up some intuitive sex positions we’ve gathered from life experience, porn, and pop culture. But if you’re lucky enough to find yourself in a sexual encounter with not one, but two, other people, you might wonder how it's possible to make all the magic happen without any awkward fumbling.

First things first: Make sure everyone involved is up for it. Maybe you’ve fantasized about being the third party for a sexy couple, maybe you’re interested in finding two other unattached people, or perhaps you’re part of one of those aforementioned sexy couples and looking to add a third. It can be a huge turn on to watch your primary sex partner being intimate with a new person within the confines of a prearranged threesome — but it’s certainly not a good idea to attempt a threesome if there are any pre-existing trust issues within the couple, or if someone has to be coerced to do it. Part of what makes a threesome so sexy is that everyone gets a little action out of the experience, which means enthusiastic consent from all parties is crucial.

Once you and your two partners have discussed boundaries (which can include safe words), it’s helpful to strategize how the threesome is actually going to go down. So, we’ve gathered some three-person sex positions for you to add to your mental rolodex should you find yourself in a ménage à trois. These positions will work for people of all genders — don’t forget that a strap-on dildo, fingers, and a penis can be used by a “giver” interchangeably to penetrate someone. And a “receiver” can be penetrated either anally or vaginally (just don’t cross-penetrate between the two if you want to avoid infections).

1. The Double Cowgirl

During a threesome, there may be moments when one receiver is the center of attention. But just because two parties’ genitals are occupied with one another doesn’t mean the third person has to be left out. In this position, both receivers are on top while the giver is lying down. One person can have penetrative intercourse with the bottom while the other person face sits so that everybody’s happy — and the bottom is delightfully smothered.
2. Double Oral

While the slobbery two-mouthed blowjobs depicted in porn aren’t exactly realistic, there are truly awesome ways to double-team oral sex. If the receiver has a penis, one mouth can focus on the penis while the other focuses on the balls or anus. If the receiver has a vulva, one mouth can focus on the clit while the other focuses on the vaginal opening. And if those configurations are too close for comfort, you can always take turns giving oral while the other focuses on the inner thighs or makes out with the receiver.
3. The Voyeur

Many people genuinely get off by simply watching all the action. If you’re anticipating that the moments when a third person isn’t actively engaged will be sad and boring, you’re going to miss out on all of the hot visual stimuli. While it’s absolutely possible to feel left out, those moments of imbalanced involvement are unavoidable in a threesome. Luckily, it can be fun to masturbate while the other two are getting it on — so don’t forget that voyeurism is participation. You can always jump back in double-dutch style when you’re ready.
4. Oral Doggy

This position works just like the doggy-style many of us know and love. But, in the threesome variation, the receiver’s mouth is free to go to town on the third person. This is a particularly great way of keeping all parties active and blissed-out. The person penetrating in doggy-style has the option of using their penis or a dildo, and they also get to watch all the action the other two are engaging in.
5. Double Penetration

While this may be a threesome porn stereotype, it can be quite satisfying for those who crave the sensation of fullness. There are many ways to configure this, and you can use a dildo, fingers, or another toy as a replacement for one (or two) penises. The double penetration can occur anally, vaginally, or with one in each orifice. It’s easiest to achieve double penetration from a doggy-style-like position, or with the receiver on their back while their legs are also held back.
6. The Spit Roast

While this move can happen in various positions, one thing is always consistent: The person in the middle is receiving penetration while also performing oral sex. This can also resemble what many people call the “Eiffel Tower” — everyone is standing while the middle person is bent over, taking it from behind (anally or vaginally) and performing oral sex, and the other two are holding hands, which helps sync up thrusts. Regardless of whether you do this one standing, or do it all kneeling on a bed, or with the middle person lying down on their back, the thrusts from the penetration will help make the oral sex going down more intense.
7. Add a toy.

Sex toys can mix up any sex act, and in a threesome, you might find that a vibe or dildo adds just enough extra stimulation to keep everybody occupied. A strap-on dildo is an easily incorporated item for any vulva-owner who wants to play penetrator or make double penetration a reality for a threesome with two vulvas and a penis. A wand-style vibrator can be an exciting presence, too — the larger handle on it can make it easier to maneuver with so much extra action, and it can be a great way to stimulate anyone who’s momentarily playing voyeur.