3 Creative Couples Show Us How To Make Love Last In NYC

UPDATE: Spring is here and love is in the air, so we decided to revisit some of our favorite Big Apple couples. This story was originally published on February 14.
Whether you're singing along to Sinéad O'Connor or you're gearing up for sexy plans with your boo, you can probably agree that love is something to aspire to. In the Big Apple, though, finding a S.O.—and making it last—isn't exactly as easy as pounding down 2,000 calories worth of Sweethearts (what, you've never done that?).
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Well, just call us Cupid's little helpers—we've rounded up three of New York's cutest couples to get some real romance inspiration, and we think attached and singleton readers alike will appreciate what these partners have to share. Now, just click out of "Nothing Compares 2 U" on Spotify.
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Lisa Tobias, designer and stylist, and Eric Adolfsen, artist and co-owner of the Wooly
How'd you two meet?
"We met eight years ago at a karaoke spot in the East Village. The building has been swallowed up by New York's ever-evolving landscape, but we are still going strong!"
What was your first impression?
Eric:"She was beautiful and inquisitive and smart."
Lisa: "I thought his rendition of Franz Ferdinand's 'Take Me Out' over a Genesis song was very innovative."
What's the most romantic thing you've each done for the other person?
Eric: "Lisa once made me a box filled with lots of different presents that each had a handwritten story attached, that was very personal and meaningful." Lisa: "He proposed to me on a surprise trip to Paris and hid the ring in a massive box of Ladurée macarons. We were high on romance and sugar for days."
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Any tips for keeping the relationship strong?
"We try to let each other have the freedom to do things independently while always making sure to share quality time together."
What are your favorite date spots in NYC?
"El Quijote, Serendipity 3, The Frick, Barney Greengrass, Brooklyn Pharmacy, The Cloisters, and the Film Forum."
How do you deal with fighting as a couple?
"Talk it out. Don't be afraid to share your feelings. And, make sure you each have your own blanket so there are no disputes about hogging!"
Tell us about the upcoming wedding!
"We are (finally) getting married in the city we grew up in at the New York Academy of Medicine, a gorgeous old world building right on Central Park."
How do you juggle work and a relationship in the city?
"We make sure to take adventures together as much as possible — whether it's a trip to the Cloisters in upper Manhattan, a bike ride over the Brooklyn Bridge, or a long weekend in Vienna. It helps break up the regular rhythms of everyday with a bit of fantasy."
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Is it hard living together? What's an annoying habit about living with the other person?
Eric: "She leaves the cap off my toothpaste. And, when she brings work home with her it's at least 10 bags brimming with clothes and shoes."
Lisa: "He has a used book addiction and has turned our apartment into a book storage facility that could rival the Public Library."
Do you borrow each other's clothes?
Lisa: "Yes. Eric's vintage bass fishing sweater is my wardrobe staple. Unfortunately for him, my clothes are too small, but I bet he'd look cute in my American Apparel sequin leggings."
What do you guys love most about each other?
Eric: "She is a creatively analytical person who challenges me and always makes life exciting."
Lisa: "He is the most genuinely kind person I've ever met and has unparalleled charisma. I also love that he's a doer who fearlessly pursues his dreams."
Eric: Jil Sander jacket, J.Crew button-up, Brooks Brothers tie, Levi's jeans.
Lisa: Vintage jacket, bangles purchased in India.
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Reika and Jesse Alexander, Partners, EN Japanese Brasserie
How did you two meet?
Reika: "We met through my friend Adrian Gaut. Jesse and Adrian were interested in checking out our kitchen at EN, and so I invited them to dinner. They both love cooking."
What was your first impression of each other?
Jesse: "I thought she was beautiful, charming and easy to make smile and laugh."
Reika: "I thought 'Oh, another cute gay guy who wouldn't be interested in people like me..' I thought he was cute and sensitive with his own style. I loved that he loved talking about food."
What's the most romantic thing you've each done for the other person?
"After a few weeks of dating, we were in love, but we didn't know each other very well. We decided to take a trip to the Caribbean — it felt like we took a chance and jumped into somewhere deep. We had a magical time there."
Any tips for keeping the relationship strong?
Reika: "If we have issues, we let each other know and try to sort it out with each other's efforts. It's important to show respect for what each other want. We try to keep a positive energy between us, that's the whole point."
Jesse: "It's very important to keep positive. That's kind of the whole point. Sometimes missed expectations and misunderstandings can derail things, but it's important to get to an understanding within yourself and your partner and make sure you both realize at the root of it all you just want to be happy with each other."
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What are your favorite date spots in NYC?
"Our restaurant is located two blocks away from the Hudson river. The view from the riverside is amazing, it has beautiful colors, especially around sunset. We also love to go out to eat, we love Il Buco — the lighting, the food, and decor. I think it's romantic. We also love going to Blue Hill at Stone Barns, where we got married. We hike around the lake and go to the cafe or the restaurant."
How do you deal with fighting as a couple?
Reika: "There was a period when we fought a lot. I don't know why exactly, but we don't really fight anymore. Maybe we accepted who we are, or we understand more about each other the more time we spend together. When I look back when we were fighting, I think there was a cultural difference as well. Jesse is a southern boy from Georgia and I am from Tokyo."
How do you juggle work and a relationship in the city?
Jesse: "Our work is pretty consuming, but our 4-year-old is a good distraction. We try and make a lot of family time and do fun things together. We also try and travel a lot. For us, getting out of the city is important. It's very easy to get pulled in to the restaurant and sometimes taking a week abroad is the best way to get some distance and perspective, and also to just spend some time together."
Is it hard living together?
"It's not hard. We have similar sensibilities, but it does take some understanding and respect for the other's opinions and desires. Sometimes cleanliness becomes an issue, but we also share the space with August, our 4-year-old, so he has a lot to do with it."
What do you guys love most about each other?
Reika: "I think Jesse is a super cute and super talented guy with a warm heart. He made me experience so many different feelings that I never experiences before him. He means so much to my life."
Jesse: "I think she's beautiful and she has a really open and honest heart. I can really trust her with anything."
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Do you borrow each other's clothes?
Reika: "I borrow his clothes, but I am pretty petite so it's more difficult for Jesse to borrow my clothes."
Jesse: "I did get my hands on a Yojhi Yamamoto coat that was oversized, I wore it for years. It literally fell to pieces on me."
Tell us about your wedding!
"We had a ceremony and an amazing dinner with our family and a few close friends at Blue Hill at Stone barns. Then we had a big party at National Art club in Gramercy park with oysters and Champagne. We invited more than 200 people. It was the best wedding, though it was pouring rain."
Jesse: J. Lindeberg suit.
Reika: Stella McCartney dress, Pierre Hardy shoes.
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Logan Horne, Stylist, and Michael Woodcock, Designer at Raad Studio
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How'd you two meet?
Logan: "We went to High School together for a bit in Florida. He was best friends with my friend's little sister."
What was your first impression? Logan: "He looked fun! He was always smiling!"
Mike: "This guy is trouble."
What the most romantic thing you've each done for the other person?
"We decided to get each other a new television for Valentine's Day this year!"
Any tips for keeping the relationship strong?
"Value the other person for exactly who they are."
What are your favorite date spots in NYC?
"Logan is a vegetarian and Michael is a meat eater, so finding the perfect restaurant can sometimes be tricky. We both LOVE southern food and every weekend we hunt for biscuits. We love Peel's, Jacob's Pickle, and Red Rooster."
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How do you deal with fighting as a couple?
Michael: "We don't fight, I'm always right, he's always wrong."
Logan: "He's right!"
How do you juggle work and a relationship in the city?
"We're young, we live in New York City, we are ambitious and passionate about our work, but we always make time for each other, it keeps us sane and grounded."
Is it hard living together? What's an annoying habit about living with the other person?
"We just moved in together in December so we are still adjusting, but both of us are really happy about it. I guess the hardest thing is that Logan has so many clothes, shoes, and bags, there is literally nowhere for them to go."
What do you guys love most about each other?
Michael: "Logan's magnetic charm."
Logan: "Michael's adventurous sprit and creative nature."
Do you borrow each other's clothes?
Michael: "Anything that fits I wear — so I guess I should go easy on the whole closet thing, ha!"
Logan: "He's lucky we are the same shoe size!"
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Michael: St. James shirt, Balenciaga corduroys.
Logan: Gant sweater, Hacket London button-up, Thom Browne pants, Lanvin oxfords.
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